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Pro Life or Anti Abortion?

Posted By at Tuesday, October 28, 2014

We commonly hear of people referred to as “pro-life “or “pro-choice.”  In the impersonal society in which we live, this is usually a reference to a stoic political position, which is actually quite a misnomer.  It’s a good effort by the anti-abortion movement to put a positive spin on its mission.  I say this not at all to discount the valuable work the related organizations do to put an end to surgical abortion.  It is a very essential work that we end abortion in all its forms, and the organizations and the people behind them that work to this end are some of today’s greatest heroes.  They have answered the call to fight the “culture of death” convicted by St. John Paul II as the worst scourge of our time.

But we as Catholics need to ensure that we as individuals are truly pro-life and not just anti-abortion.  It all starts with getting back to the basics.  Within Sacramental Marriage (only) the sexuality of a husband and wife is a gift from God and should always be unitive and procreative.  It should always be an act of love that is always open to the possibility of creating life, conceiving a child.  Of course in our anti-life culture, our culture of death, this is an unfathomable way to live.  For one, our culture doesn’t see sexuality as something to limit to married couples.  Of course now, the major movement is for normalization of disordered homosexual acts.  We might only assume that bestiality and incest would follow.  Once we break away from a sound moral standard, it gets to be a severely slippery slope.

If we apply this Catholic moral law of sexuality (being unitive and procreative in the context of permanent Sacramental Marriage), we can see the soundness of civility upon which an ordered society can be built.  There actually is no other foundation.  Anything less is sure to collapse under its own weight.  God’s first Commandment was to “increase and multiply” (Gen 1:28), not “add.”  We Catholics are to be open to life.  How many children should we have?  Do we limit our family size out of selfishness or fear?  St. John Paul II said “Be not afraid.”  Children are a blessing from God.  We do not need to lavish upon them every material thing, or store up great bank accounts so they can get a great college “education” (degree) so they can end up in the rat race.  Children have very few material needs outside of basic food, clothing, and shelter.  If they are raised properly with character, when they reach adulthood they are more than capable of providing for themselves.  This is what they really need:  the attentive love and presence of parents.  Why is it that we as parents think we have to secure them financially for their entire lives?  Is this the way God created humanity?  Of course not.  Fear has no place in the human family; it is a symptom of the presence of the devil.  He has convinced so many to fear the most beautiful and innocent of creation, children.  This is what is at the heart of abortion and has its roots in sterilization (mutilation) and contraception.

My heart goes out to all the loving couples who would like to have children and are unable to.  So many have come to our attention in recent years.  They carry a special cross in their lives.  I’m sure it is heart wrenching to them to see so many couples purposely cut off the blessings of God.  They could be a particular answer to a person who has made a mistake and conceived a child outside of wedlock.  Adoption is always a loving option for those who find themselves in an impossible situation.  It is never right to kill a child.   

But for those of us whom God has blessed with the give to participate in creation with Him, we must stop acting as though we are God and start to trust Him.  By wanting to do too much for our children we place a limit of what He can do in them.  God created man in Him image (cf Gen 1:27).   We are all engineered for success and greatness.  Loving couples in Sacramental Marriage must honor the vows they take before God and welcome children without limiting the possibilities.  These children grow and develop to do amazing wonderful things if only given the chance.  So many are not even given the chance neither at conception nor birth.  What a conviction that will be upon our people and our Church. 

Our Faith teaches us the proper order for our lives and the proper end of Sacramental Marriage.  We only need to open our eyes and our hearts to being generous in the most powerful and generative aspect of our marriages.  Christ came to give life and to give it to the full (cf John 10:10).  Do we reflect His love and generosity in our own marriages or do we follow the world, the flesh, and the devil and all their empty promises?

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Contact Sports and Feminine Formation

Posted By at Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Recently I saw a Facebook friend post a news story about an 8th grade girl who was a kicker on a boys’ Catholic CYO football team, but was “benched” because of a policy against girls playing on the team.  The observation by the person making the post was “Is this where we are?”  I assume that means we should have “progressed” so far from such a narrow-minded way of thinking.  Obviously, I personally agree with the policy and think it is still a small semblance of Catholic thought left in the culture in which we live.  I haven’t followed the story any further but I’m sure there will be a lot of pressure on the organization to change the policy with the feminist ideology all around us.  Before pointing out the reasons I agree with the policy, I would first like to point out that all involved broke a rule, and then after having done something that was prohibited, proceeded as though they had a right to continue.  This is how liberals typically operate.  They are very aggressive in pushing the envelope to see what they can get away with then cry “FOWL” when a rule is enforced.  We don’t have to wonder why the parents didn’t ask permission for the young lady to participate before she did.  The reports are that the young lady was “devastated” by the decision.  It makes one wonder why her parents would not have been more cautious before encouraging her to do something wasn’t allowed.

In another story that we featured on our Facebook page, no less than the BISHOP of a diocese had to step in to forbid girls from participating in a school’s WRESTLING program.  Yes, the linked article there says the “decree” is archaic; I’d have to say they are insane.  Where has common sense and common decency gone amongst everyday Catholics?  Not only that, but the good Bishop actually was (seriously?) asked why he made such a call AND he had to actually come out and explain himself since they were unable to comprehend his reasoning.  Bishop Ronald Gainer explains "We would in our Catholic school try to teach and model respect between the two sexes and appropriate relationship.  This sort of physical contact seems to violate the moral standards.  I would say it would be scripture.  My only thought is it would be the appropriate respect between the sexes for one another. It may be our Catholic interpretation, but we would find it rooted in God's word."  I would just ask the coaches and parents involved to imagine themselves in such a position when they were that age with the raging hormones they possessed to see if they really felt like this was appropriate.  I’ll go ahead and open up a politically incorrect can of worms and say that it would also be inappropriate for homosexual males to participate for the same obvious reasons.

A larger obvious reason I would disagree with females participating with males in contact sports is simply for their own protection.  Even in the case of a kicker, the young lady is on the field of play and so is in the line of fire.  The players’ goal is to block the kick.  Surely there are rules to protect the kicker, but kickers still do get hit and get hurt.  Females are smaller and weaker than males typically so their risk of injury is greater.  A young man who is a gentleman will be concerned for the safety of a young lady on the field, so he will not play at full speed or with full force.  This is how someone gets hurt playing football.  I know; I played as a kid in high school.

This is all done from the feminist notion that females can do anything males can do, so they insist that they be given the opportunity to prove it.  When someone denies them, they are aghast that we haven’t progressed further than this in 2014.  This is utter madness.  We’ll even put our daughters in harm’s way in the military under the ideal of “equality.” 

This brings me to my main principle that stands juxtaposed against females in contact sports of any sort, and that is feminine formation.  The reason we as Catholics reject the feminist notion that women should do any and every thing men do is because God created men and women to be different.  The world, led by feminists, believes that men and women are the same and seeks to create some freak of a being with no gender identity.  People are even having surgical procedures to change their gender.  We glory in the way God made us in His image, male and female (Gen 1:27).   The problem with raising children today is that parents are taught to raise and form them backwards.  Girls are taught to be aggressive and compete against boys.  Boys are taught to be quiet and calm like girls are naturally.  When the boys don’t behave this way, they are punished and in many cases drugged.

I heard it said that males portray the power of God and females portray His beauty.  We have to ask ourselves in the formation of our daughters is we are raising them to portray His beauty or his power.  What does participation in contact sports embody?  It embodies power, aggression, strength, and conquering the opponent.  Even if females are participating against females, does this sound like feminine formation to you?  Our Faith always takes the feminine from the perspective of mothering.  Even if a woman is not a physical mother she will be a spiritual mother.  Many writings from St. John Paul II and Venerable Fulton J. Sheen reflect this.  John Paul’s Mulieris Dignitatem goes primarily and extensively into the role of woman as mother.  Our feminist culture has deceived us into glossing over this presentation and focusing on the deviant roles of women, even in Catholic circles. 

For those of us parents raising daughters are we raising them to be young ladies who will one day be mothers?  What type of formation would encourage this?  Would it be the aggression of contact sports or would it be something softer, more beautiful, more loving and compassionate, more compatible with their very delicate anatomy that is created to bear a child?  There are many things for our daughters to do which are more conducive to their femininity and which will protect their dignity, like music and art.  Does this mean that girls and women should just let themselves go and not take care of their bodies and fitness?  Of course not.  There are many ways girls and ladies can exercise in a discreet and private way that preserve their dignity. If we look at previous generations when women were happier and more…well…feminine, we would see that they did not participate in many things young ladies participate in today.  They did feminine things, and their marriages stayed together and were happier, and their children were more obedient and respectful.  We need to stop and realize we haven’t really “progressed” as far as we think, and we can do something to change that.

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Feminine Power by Venerable Fulton J. Sheen

Posted By at Monday, October 13, 2014

Feminine Power:  How differently a woman acts when she knows her love to be a messenger!  When a woman sees herself as the channel of Divine Love, she becomes the image of the highest aspiration of the soul; this is her power.  She has the capacity to lift a man to the highest levels, even to transform him, for anyone in love always seeks to become life the one that is loved.  Hence the level of any civilization is always the level of its womanhood.
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Divorce and Remarriage by Venerable Fulton J. Sheen

Posted By at Tuesday, October 07, 2014

Divorce and Remarriage:  The soul receives a shock and a dislocatoin which no amount of external companionship can compensate.  In the garden of one's heart on knows that liberty was never meant to be spelled adultery.   Venerable Fulton J. Sheen

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Manly Commitment

Posted By at Monday, September 08, 2014

True manhood is marked by the ability to make and keep commitments.  Of course the most significant of these commitments would be one that would last a lifetime, which would be a man’s commitment to his vocation—the priesthood, religious life, or marriage.  This very trait is the one that is sorely needed in men today.  How often do we hear about men falling down on commitments, being unfaithful to their wives or not doing the thing they said they would do? 

At 45 years old, I am a member of Generation X.  One of the marks that we are known for is a lack of commitment.  Let’s look at some of the changes from previous generations where ours may have not been trained in an atmosphere of commitment:

  • Mothers began working outside the home more and more not making the commitment to raise their own children.
  • Divorce became more prevalent as parents failed in their commitment to each other in marriage to raise their children in a two-parent stable home.
  • Priests, nuns, and religious left their orders in record numbers abandoning their vows to God and the Church.
  • Employers softened on their commitment to their workers where lay-offs became a common occurrence and pension plans were weakened marking the end of lifetime tenure with a company.

You can probably think of others, but I think these are the most common.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not making any excuses for us.  But we as a society have to realize we reap what we sow.   

Yes, this is the environment I grew up in.  I was blessed to have a two-parent home, but I saw my share of lack of commitment all around me.  The striking thing to me is the amount of selfishness that drives it all.  The next thing I notice is that despite the selfish motives behind the lack of commitment, in the end the uncommitted one is still unhappy.  What many fail to comprehend is the difference between misery and temporary discomfort.

Discomfort is a part of life.  We are human; we get tired and weak.  Donald Trump, well known real estate magnate and entrepreneur, said “your higher self lies outside your comfort zone.”  This is what Christ calls us to, our higher self.  Commitment causes us to keep moving forward in the face of pain or discomfort.  Commitment causes us to work through difficulty in our relationships instead of ending them.  It causes us to seek to understand our wives and their needs when they get in the way of our desires or selfishness. Commitment causes us to pass on doing things for ourselves to be present to our children and develop a relationship with them so that we can guide them on through life.

In the end, when we lay aside our selfishness out of commitment, we arrive at a place called contentment or joy.  I remember Mother Angelica saying on her EWTN live show that happiness and pleasure are things of this world, but joy is heavenly, a spiritual experience.  Christ said “Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”(Matt 10:39)  This is not to say that we are called to be miserable.  We have to be true to ourselves and pursue that which will be truly fulfilling in the unique way God has made each of us.  It is a call to maturity, a call away from the childish pursuits of pleasures toward responsible self-giving love.  It is a call to make wise choices based on logic and reason and a rejection of making decisions based on emotion and desire.

Commitment takes time; it is not something that comes easy.  But it lays the foundation for a solid and firm future.  It is like the foundation of a building, of a home.  This reminds us of what Christ said about being wise.  Those who listened to His words and acted on them are like the wise man who built his house on rock; those who did not act on them were like a fool who built his house on sand. (cf Matt 7:24-27)  Notice our Lord says the one who ACTS is the one who is wise.  It is not sufficient to listen or to learn or to possess knowledge.  We must ACT on it if we wish to be wise and not foolish.

Commitment requires action.  It’s easy to talk a good show, but it takes a man to back up his words with action.  Little boys tell stories full of fantasy about what they will do.  Women pick up on this quickly.  A boy tells her what she wants to hear in order to have his way with her.  A wise woman will require him to prove himself to be a real man, to make a commitment to her, a lifetime commitment before she makes a commitment to him.  The action of commitment doesn’t just last for a day or a week or a month.  It continues for the required amount of time to meet the task.  Sometimes that may be a year, sometimes 10 years, and yes, sometimes a lifetime. 

So, it’s important to know what things we should make a commitment to and what things can stay open-ended.  This requires us to make priorities in life. 

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Are Catholic Schools REALLY Catholic?

Posted By at Monday, September 01, 2014

When we talk about education here, like anything else, we bring it into the reality of the day-to-day life of a Catholic living within the moral and theological law of the Church established by Christ.  Just based on my own observations knowing what the Church teaches and seeing how certain institutions with the “Catholic” label on them conduct their operations, some things just don’t seem to add up.  Catholic education is one of those institutions.  While many who are also perplexed and frustrated have resorted to homeschooling, I must say that many homeschooling families have me equally puzzled. 

Let’s just start off with the basic teaching of which EVERYONE is aware:  that married Catholics should be open to having children.  Now be certain that it is understood here that it is precisely stated that way as there are numerous situations that are BEYOND the couple’s control that may cause them to have a limited number of children or none at all, meaning physiological/medical limitations.   Of course we recognize that is not a choice the couple has made.  But outside of that, what’s the common phrase on the street when someone sees a large family?  “They must be ‘good’ Catholics.”  So as common of an understanding as that is, I don’t feel that it’s necessary for me on this occasion to pull documents and reference them.  Often when someone states this, it is to mean that the couple is being obedient to the Church’s teaching that artificial contraception is a moral evil and should always be avoided under the pain of mortal sin. 

This begs the question as to whether or not this fact is even being taught in the Catholic schools.  But beyond the mere stating of moral law, if it is taught, does the philosophy behind this teaching come out at all whatsoever?  Again, just from the outside looking in, I’m a bit perplexed.  The Church teaches us that children are a blessing from God.  The love relationship between a man and his wife when carried out physically to its culmination can result in the generation of a new life with an immortal soul.  How can any other vocation or calling (job), outside of the higher religious vocations, compare to this?  Now the schools may be teaching it in a Catechism or religion class, but where do the students find evidence of that reality?  If children are such a blessing shouldn’t we want them in abundance, more than material possessions?  Please note the capital sin of avarice at this point.  How often are the students, girls in particular but also boys, told that it is an “option,” which should be stated as preferred option, for a girl to grow up to be a full-time mother?  Is this promoted at all whatsoever?  Or do we go to religion class and hear about how you can’t use birth control and should be open to children, but the rest of the time are being railroaded into a career.  This is the juncture at which we need to make distinctions between the girls and the boys.  Is that done?  I’m just asking.  If so, what would be the parents’ reactions to something as counter-cultural as this?  Would they find another place to have their children “educated” (indoctrinated)?

Of course if they did, that could be awfully confusing to the students as the teacher trying to teach this might actually be the one who is using contraception while her own child is at daycare.  She (or he) may or may not be Catholic depending on the school.  He or she may or may not be in a valid marriage.  Wow, this “Catholic education” is really starting to get complicated if we think these things through.  This isn’t your grandparents’ school that had boys and girls separated taught by religious brothers and sisters.  Again, when the theology got sloppy in the 70’s and 80’s after the religious had all left in the 60’s, many parents resorted to homeschooling when they couldn’t get satisfactory results.  Now many of them are trying to impress the world by sending their daughters to college and proposing careers to them.  If homeschooling was such a great idea for these parents, why wouldn’t it be equally great for their kids and grandkids? 

Homeschooling is the most conducive role for a wife being the primary educator, as the Church teaches us parents are, while still being open to life and having an abundance of children if that is God’s Will for that couple.  Again, He should be the one in CONTROL of this, not the couple.  The couple should be focused on the love they share and allowing God to work in their marriage to do His Will mainly by bringing babies into the world.  Why would a mother teaching other people’s children be seen as a higher calling that her educating her own as the Church teaches us we are to do?  Is it only because it produces a paycheck and is applauded by society?  Who is going to care for the children, and how can she continue to have more children while she works? 

I become even more perplexed when I hear one of the few Catholic girls’ schools remaining proclaim that they are training the leaders of tomorrow.  Really?  Are they promoting that these girls enter convents to practice this leadership?  Or are they erroneously training them to be the leaders of their homes?  Was submission removed from the Bible?  The same goes with Catholic universities and colleges.  Their doors are open to women preparing them for careers outside the home, which will often conflict with bearing children and require contraception and/or sterilization in order to maintain. 

So when we raise these issues people warn us that we are not “going along” with today’s Catholic education as they see the co-ed Catholic colleges and read the documents of the Church esteeming the exalted merits of education.  But this is not the education that the Church promotes.  She never intended for women to purposely go into careers that would conflict with their marriages and family.  This is the disconnect between that concept of “education” and the reality of the day to day life of a Catholic.  If we stop and think about this, it may be no wonder to us why Catholics thumb their noses at the Church’s moral law.  The Catholic institutions themselves aren’t doing their job in reinforcing it. 

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The Manly Power of Focus

Posted By at Monday, August 25, 2014

A quality that men generally have been granted by God is that of focus.  Men tend to be able to “compartmentalize” their lives and activities and this makes for some very productive time in the areas where our time is spent.

We all possess a certain degree of focus, but if it is not cultivated and preserved, it can be diminished, possibly severely.  We can nurture our focus by sticking with the activity or task that is currently our duty.  Let’s face it, as men we wear a lot of hats.  Over the course of a day, we can be a husband, a father, a friend, a worker, a boss, a leader, a disciple, an athlete, you get the picture.  By covering so many bases, oftentimes our minds can get pulled into those other things we’re involved with rather than the task at hand.  The thing to do at these times is to catch ourselves and consciously focus our minds back to what we’re doing.  It’s the old “be where you are” idea. 

According to Jim Fannin, the most successful of people, athletes, businessmen, executives, investors, etc. have a great sense of focus.  In his program The 90-Second Rule, he trains his audience on how to develop this focus.  One particular aspect of it that was a revelation to me was that these superstars have fewer thoughts than most people, much fewer.  The techniques he teaches in his program equip the audience to reduce the number of thoughts they have in order to develop a sharper focus.

To get completely focused on an activity, we should shut everything else out.  This isn’t to say that we are unconcerned with our other responsibilities like our families or with our obligation to worship God.  It is by diligently and adequately carrying out our life’s duties that we fulfill our family responsibilities and give glory to God.  I remember a plaque on the wall of the high school field house that said “What I am is God’s gift to me.  What I make of myself is my gift to God.”  So, when we’re at work for instance, we close the door on our family life, our hobbies, our Church obligations, etc. and we immerse ourselves completely on the task at hand.  If there is an emergency that requires our attention, we will be informed about it.  We don’t have to be constantly on the lookout for something possibly going on.  We shut everything out and focus on the task at hand. 

It’s very much like when we are in Mass, and God wants our complete focus on Him.  We shouldn’t be fixing the plumbing problem at home in our minds or getting that project out at the office.  While at Mass, it should be our refuge, our sanctuary to leave behind that which is temporal and focus on the eternal.  It’s our time to get centered and to remind ourselves of what is the utmost in importance.  Once we do this it helps to prioritize and reorder all the other things we have to do.  This is why Mass is so important.  It helps us to refocus.  We can fool ourselves into thinking that we don’t have time or that we can do it ourselves.  We think if we can just apply ourselves a bit longer we’ll be able to get so much more ahead.  But how often have we done that and wasted our time?  How often have we stepped away from the grind and went to Mass to be refreshed and recharged and returned to be a much more efficient and productive worker?  We can all get wrapped up in what we’re doing and neglect our responsibilities.  That’s not focus; that’s indulgence.

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Tap In To Masculine Power

Posted By at Sunday, August 17, 2014

It’s a pretty common view that there is a tremendous underutilization of one of our society’s most powerful resources:  men.  How often do we hear about men being passive or absent or lazy or disinterested?  I have another question:  Isn’t this exactly what the feminist movement wants?  Of course the knee-jerk reply to that is that all the feminists want is equality.  That may have been the case at the onset, but that has been achieved, much to the detriment of our society to the extent it involves removing mothers from the home who have children to raise and care for.  Regardless, it has been achieved.  Women can and do occupy any and every position men do in our society.  So, why haven’t the feminists claimed victory and closed up shop and gone down to the neighborhood bar to have a beer and celebrate like men would?  Because they need to perpetuate themselves much like labor unions who had a place at one time in the business sector but are no longer necessary.

I don’t think you’re going to hear much from feminists about men not carrying their weight.  The feminists have men right where they want them:  being politically correct and silent about women pretty much doing anything they want even if it’s harmful to family and children.  Women who are trying to march to their orders are the ones who are complaining.  Many of these are good Catholic women doing whatever everyone else is doing not discouraged by their Priests or Church communities yet trying to figure out why their lives aren’t so hunky-dory as the stealthily led feminist organizations promised them they would be.  These are the ones who wish the men in their lives, mainly their husbands, are not more engaged and aggressive in their pursuits.

While there is a whole industry of social scientists (who are very well paid to come up with their theories) who are trying to research these phenomena, I would like to state the obvious as to why these men behave in such a passive manner:  Because they can.  I have observed that men generally will rise to the level that is required and no higher.  If we consider when may have been more valiant or virtuous, we may start to wonder what was the difference between the men at that time and men now.  Did they have a different bone structure or a better diet or more advanced mental capabilities?  Let’s take the men of World War II or any significant military event.  How did these men act with such courage?  They were required to.  How about men of the great depression?  They were required to.  How about men during the westward expansion?  They had to. 

Due to the feminist agenda, women can do any job a man can do.  So men aren’t required to do any more than they do.  They can play games and watch sports and play fantasy sports because their wives take care of the household chores and pay the bills as well.  So if any women are wondering why their husbands aren’t more in tune with things or more passionate about anything but football, you may have bought the feminist program and didn’t realize it. 

As Fr. Paul Marx noted if we look at all of the great discoveries and inventions throughout history, we will find that men have made them.  (I often add my two cents that women then put shrubs around them.)  Yet only women have the ability to bring forth the greatest of all creation, another human being.  But feminists have indoctrinated women to claim that this is abusive and they shouldn’t be used as “brood mares."  So they go out and satisfy a lower calling of working for a paycheck instead, all the while believing they are doing good by serving others “using their God-given abilities.”  As GK Chesterton observed they claimed “I will not be dictated to” then went off to become stenographers.  The problem is once they reach their 40s and 50s they see that the greatest thing they could have done with their lives has passed them by, and they are no longer interested in this emotionally dramatized career they now have. 

I have also observed that when men are required to carry the load in a family while their wives stay home and bear and care for children, they do.  A young lady wrote in last week in reaction to our last article saying that she is going to college to have a career not so much because of the possibility of abandonment but  “just in case” the man she eventually marries becomes sick or dies.  Apparently she wasn’t taught that there is inexpensive insurance for both of those possibilities that responsible young families should have (instead of trips to Disneyworld).  Her question shows how effective the feminist movement has been at indoctrination.  The undertone there is that the man just can’t handle it.  He WILL require help.  So it’s often a self-fulfilling concern.  The man marries a lady with a good steady income, and he’s set.  He can coast.  It happens all the time. 

But men are capable of so much more when they are required to be.  It’s time to wake up this sleeping giant in our culture and get it engaged.  There is way too much power on the sidelines not being used.  Due to affirmative action and EEOC policies many large corporations require that so many women fill certain positions or that purchases be made from women-owned businesses.  What happens when there is a man who is better qualified at filling these needs?  He is pushed to the sideline or is left at a lower position and never realizes his potential. 

If we wonder why we are not moving forward as a society and as a country and as a participant in the worldwide economy we may want to consider these very facts.  We may want to look at the leaders in the worldwide economy to see what their sociological makeup is like.  Look at the accomplishments of men throughout history, and look at them today and ask yourself why there is a difference, if you dare.

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Just in Case?

Posted By at Monday, August 11, 2014

When we released the article on making the decision of college for daughters that was actually intended for conservative homeschooling Catholic parents (a large portion of our audience), it thankfully got caught up into the mainstream and gave our site quite a bit of traffic.  I still stand by the positions taken in the article for the reasons stated therein.  I was quite validated when before making the case and points for the positions, I first predicted the type of emotional response, and it came as predicted.  Then after listing the common objections and the reasons those objections to not apply, those precise false accusations were hurled all over the internet even though they were spelled out within the document.  This just shows the amount of hatred and disdain the opposition has for those who disagree with them and those that do not wish to place their loved ones into their program.  The uncontrolled violent vitriol displayed showed signs of absolute evil and intolerance.

At this point, I’d like to comment on the last of the common objections that we normally receive to the recommendation of not sending a daughter to college, and only part of that objection.  This would be that parents want to send their daughters to college so that she will be able to support herself in case her husband abandons her, in other words, in case they get divorced.  We can see the feminist agenda in the way this is stated as the full blame is placed on the men in all cases saying that she will be abandoned.  Are the wives never at fault in a divorce situation?  Before going on, another common objection stated to the article was that many of the points also applied to sons, like college being an occasion of sin for them as well.  That is very true.  So college for all of our children should not be an automatic default in the plan for education as the investment advisers would like you to believe.  (Yes they do have a great college fund to go with that.)  But the reality is that some occupations that they will be called to will require a degree.  It all depends on what they’re called to do.  If their prospective occupation doesn’t require it, they also should not go for many of the same reasons as not sending girls.  If it does, it becomes a necessary evil that should be carefully undertaken preferably close to home where the parents can still be involved.  Again the reasoning here is the traditional roles. The husbands have to provide for the family.  The role of a wife and mother does not require college, and college will actually detract from her role.  The obvious reason for these roles is stamped in our very anatomies as the wives are the only ones capable of the august dignity of bearing children.

Regardless, with the enormous divorce rate today, most parents feel justified in equipping their daughters “just in case” her marriage doesn’t work out.  I would like to quote a Priest with whom I shared this “If she’s hedging her bets by getting a degree, then she shouldn’t marry the guy.”  What kind of trust is that of a woman toward her man?  Is she giving herself to him completely without reserve?  It doesn’t sound like it.  It sounds like deep down there is a lack of trust.  This is straight out of the feminist playbook.  They dictate that men are louses and not to be trusted.  Can we see that by a wife hedging in this way she is not giving her heart completely to her husband?  If this is the case, how is a husband to view this?  Do you think that he can sense her distrust?  I would think that he could.  What would be the difference in this and him keeping a “little black book” of ladies’ contact information in case his wife runs off with her boss?

We need to stop and ask ourselves if we really have a Christian understanding and belief in marriage in its sense of being totally giving of self, a complete surrender, totally trusting in the spouse, and a commitment of permanence.  We need to consider what kind of message we’re sending to our children, especially our daughters, about marriage and the role they are to fill in the married state.  Yes, divorce is a big problem, but it’s not simply a single reason of men not being faithful.  There are two sides to every conflict.  There is a significant possibility of lack of commitment in both directions.  If both spouses completely surrender and allow themselves to be vulnerable and become interdependent, a strong bond of permanence is destined to be formed.

God bless you+