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Homosexuals Using God's Design?

Posted By at Monday, July 27, 2015

Catechism of the Catholic Church

Chastity and homosexuality

2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered." They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.

2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.

2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection. <emphasis added>

I just wanted to once again present the Church’s timeless teaching on homosexuality before I get into my topic here, regardless of how the media continues to misinterpret or present things said by Church “officials.”  There has been no change in the Church’s teaching on this issue nor will there ever be.  But while the number of men and women afflicted with this disorder is not negligible, as explained by the Catechism, the relative proportion of people certainly is.  Even in government studies done in America by the CDC the percentage is about 1.6% or 2.3% depending on how you view it.  So obviously here again we have the government and politicians blowing up something extremely rare relatively speaking that it is trying to normalize in society. 

Yes, we are to treat everyone, regardless of which of the particular crosses we are each made to bear, with dignity and respect, including those with these disordered tendencies.  What makes this particular affliction somewhat unique is how unnatural the disorder is.  But as we observe those who either obstinately ignore the beautiful and concerned care of the Church in this area or are simply ignorant of it, we can see that they still have some tendencies toward the natural.  Of course the tendency is objectively unnatural simply because biologically and anatomically “They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity.(CCC2357).  But how often do we see such “couples” as still attracting a physically opposite masculine- or feminine-appearing mate even though their sexual anatomy dictates otherwise?

In a very awkward and disordered way they still reflect somewhat of a natural pairing under a very twisted appearance.  It makes one wonder why this would be.  Could it be because there is something to the complementarity of a couple that transcends sexual anatomy?  I am in no way accepting homosexuality by analyzing this.  Sexual anatomy is obviously primary as designed by Almighty God, and I praise and thank Him for that (daily).  Glory be to God!  But we live in a culture that is attempting to meld the masculine and feminine and diminish any indication of a difference, and we can even see semblances of it in homosexuals.  In all likelihood, this is what makes their relationships last as long as they do, although most are destined to fail. 

Actually, God’s design is for a masculine man and feminine woman to unite and marry permanently for life and to carry out their respective gender-specific roles.  Scripture tells us in Genesis that in the most basic sense this is for the woman to bear children and for the man to work to provide for them.  Because of his natural masculine size and strength he is to be the head of that family, its provider, and its protector.  Because of the soft, sensitive, and gentle nature of the feminine woman, she is to be submissive to her husband and be the primary nurturer and caregiver for her children.  Again, transcending the primary sexual anatomical complementarity, their complementary masculine and feminine natures make for a wonderful working relationship with a distinct division of responsibilities in an industrious productive home.

When we part from this design, we start to have problems.  I’ve noticed in many (heterosexual) couples that it is the norm now for the woman to be quite a leader with a distinct take-charge attitude in the relationship.  She will often be the more vocal member of the couple.  This goes quite unnoticed by most and appears to be expected now.  She is generally expected to work outside the home and generate an income and is almost always charged with taking care of the finances.  These are all the responsibilities inherent to the husband’s duty to his wife.   Even though a woman may be unusually aggressive or assertive, a more dominant or authoritative man can always be found.   If she insists on uniting herself to a milder man, she will have a special challenge in forcing herself to submit to his leadership.  So what is he doing while she’s taking care of all of his responsibilities?  Often out of “fairness” since she works, he will often be cooking and doing housework and tending to the children.  So, as you’ve guessed it, we have some significant role reversals going on here.  In order to Fix the Family, we’ve got to get back to basics and take care of the duties that are inherent in each of our respective genders to fulfill the complementarity as God intended.

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Our 12 Marriage Non-Negotiables--Celebrating 25 Years of REAL Marriage Part 2

Posted By at Monday, July 20, 2015

Co-authored by Raylan and Missy Alleman

As mentioned last time, Missy and I are celebrating 25 years of marriage this year.  I wanted to put down some key things that have worked for us for those who might be interested.  Some of these are requirements based on Church teachings.  Others for us were just non-negotiables that we haven’t parted from in order to make our marriage the best it can be and thereby benefit our children.  But nevertheless as the Scriptures say in the end there is only love.  On that note, many have neglected their marriages while raising a family and come to find that they are living with a stranger once the children are grown and gone.  Children are a natural fruit of marriage, but the spouses share a Sacrament with each other which is more binding and lasting than the blood relation with their own children.  This is the fundamental point that must be remembered.

And now for our 12 Marriage Non-Negotiables:

  1. Commitment—Marriage is permanent-’til death do us part.  All marriages will have their rough spots, some more than others.  But we knew when we took our vows they were just that, vows. 
  2. Truth—We seek to know the truth and to live it out.  The Church gives us some guidelines to live by.  We need to be docile and obedient to them.  First of all we need to earnestly and actively seek to know and learn the Truth not to run and hide from it or to “play dumb” when we really know better.  In the same way a parent gives hard truths to his children, so God through Holy Mother Church gives us solid hard Truths that will not fail us even in difficult trying times. 
  3. Prayer—We take time to pray together regularly.  This has taken different facets during our relationship.  We started out praying the Rosary together well before we were married and have continued praying a daily Rosary with the family.  But we have seen the need throughout our marriage to have time for prayer together just with each other as well as practicing a common devotion even when we aren’t able to pray it together.  We pray for each other as well to be the spouse we need to be and for each other to meet our needs.  We had prayed for each other before we met when praying to God to find a good spouse.  We also have found it necessary especially to pray against the works of Satan who has his sights set on destroying good marriages.
  4. Sanctuary—We have a time and space for ourselves.  We make it a point to have some time alone everyday and a night each week to just focus on each other.  We also have a space in our home that is our sanctuary where no one else is to enter, except for nursing babies which we limited to their first year.
  5. Selflessness—Being “other-centered” and focused on the needs of the beloved.  Again, as a Sacrament, marriage should be the ultimate love.  Scripture said we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves.  Our intention is to be the spouse that each other needs us to be ultimately to help each other reach heaven.  Any good relationship helps the other person to be better.  We have to get to know each others’ needs as well as likes and dislikes by spending time together and communicating often.  Ultimately in doing so the beloved is happy so the person is also happy. 
  6. Forgiveness—As Christ forgives, so must we.  Unfortunately, we naturally don’t tend toward selflessness.  Even though we officially have 7 capital sins, I believe they can all be summed up into 1:  selfishness.  So we have to be willing to admit when we have wronged each other and forgive each other.  When we hold on to grudges or hard feelings it can be a poison to the relationship causing division and resentment that takes longer to heal.  It’s much better to forgive right away and move on. 
  7. Mentors—We were led to great mentors and consulted them often.  In line with knowing the Truth, we also wanted to find out the practical lifestyles that would yield the results we wanted.  This started with us seeking to live truth by avoiding contraception, and we were led to a great couple who taught us natural family planning.  This couple led us to a wonderful association of many like-minded couples and families that we were able to learn from.  These associations and mentors have been a tremendous support for us in a society hostile to marriage and family life.  The basic rule of thumb is to find someone getting the results you want, and ask them how they achieved them.
  8. Roles—We have been faithful to our martial roles and respectful of that of each other.  One of the guidelines the Church gives us is the role of husband and wife in marriage.  The husband is the head; the wife is the heart.  In order to live out these roles faithfully with challenges of today we had to make some tough decisions.  For Missy to fully embrace her role, we felt she had to be free to be a full-time wife and mother and not have the distraction of a job outside the home.  We decided this while we were engaged.  Ironically, this was even reinforced in a college Parenting class we took together.  That put the responsibility of providing on me.  This is actually the spirit of Church Teaching in this area, which has supported us well.  Being true to our roles has enhanced our respective masculinity and femininity making our relationship that much stronger and our love that much more passionate.

  9. Priorities—We are purposeful in making life decisions.  Our marriage and our resulting family is our top priority.  We made decisions and “sacrifices” all throughout that reflected and were genuine to that priority.  Dating back to the beginning when deciding on my first job, I took the one that would not involve overnight travel and that would keep us in a family-friendly town.  There are many lifestyles and environments that pose distractions, temptations, and damage to marriage and family life.  We have to remain true to our commitment and make decisions accordingly.  I heard from a former employer not long ago who stumbled across our website and the things we promote here, and he was very supportive.  He recalls that he could never get me to work late hours as he would have liked but was respectful of me to want to get home to my family after the workday was done.
  10. Children—We’ve welcomed children as a fruit of our conjugal union.  In marriage the Church forbids contraception and encourages us to “be fruitful and multiply” (Gen 1:28) being generous with the gift of life.  Our society has attempted to disassociate children from marriage, but they are an integral part of it and have been a primary focus for all of our lives and will be in various ways even after they are grown and on their own.  Unlike those who promoted contraception in the 60’s, we do not see children as a distraction to our marriage but embracing them and their care have been our “work of love” in our life together as a married couple.

  11. Homeschooling—WE are the primary educators of our children Building on #10, we have taken a hands-on approach to the education of our children.  The Church formally reinforces married couples in this.  Early on we were introduced to the concept of home schooling by friends we met and then read Mary Kay Clark’s book Catholic Home Schooling.  We highly recommend this book to all Catholic parents.  Again, this is a project of teamwork for us as a couple, so the results we achieve with our children enhance and build our husband and wife relationship that much more.
  12. Fun—We just enjoy being together doing whatever.  We really enjoy each others’ company and it almost doesn’t matter what we are doing.  We take the time to do those things we do enjoy being playful and lighthearted.  We still need to know each others’ sensitive areas and are careful not to “press the wrong buttons” or embarrass each other in front of others.

This is what has worked for us to this point. It’s pretty basic and very much in line with the spirit of Church Teaching in this area that has been consistent through the ages.  Unfortunately, too many couples are not being taught what we’ve learned and have gone the way of the world ending up with severe struggles and tragic results.  This is heartbreaking to us.  We’ve learned through our own experience and others we know that it can be so much better, as God intended:  a little piece of Heaven.

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Celebrating REAL Marrige-25 Years' Worth

Posted By at Tuesday, July 07, 2015

I enjoy studying successful people, those who have excelled in their particular sphere of expertise, and finding out what makes them tick and how they were able to achieve their accomplishments.  Various books have been written compiling those common factors, practices, and qualities of successful people.  One practice I recall was that all successful people would reward themselves when they reached a particular goal or accomplished a significant task.  They would plan ahead for these celebrations as a bit of a motivation toward reaching the goal.

My wife and I will be married 25 years on August 18 of this year.  Roughly about a year ago, influenced by discussions with our older children who enjoy concerts, I began toying with the idea of seeing my favorite musician Brian Culbertson live.  Being that his tour didn’t come anywhere near here I really began dreaming wide-open and started looking into his highly publicized Napa Valley Jazz Getaway, since I also have a passion for Pinot Noir, of which he has created a blend of his own.  Well, to make a long story short, we went last month, and the trip was absolutely phenomenal, and the overall experience is difficult to put into words.  For a couple with 7 children who have rarely gotten away overnight, although more so in recent years as our children have grown, the expedition was quite a feat.  It was a tremendous blessing as just about everything went off without a hitch from airline travel to accommodations, even complete with a Latin Mass at a small chapel in a nearby town at Holy Family Mission similar to the one we attend regularly here at home.

I intended to write this article sooner after the return from the trip but was diverted by recent news events that I felt I needed to address.  So with the decision of the US Supreme Court with regard to legal unions, I believe it further embellishes the points I wanted to share about genuine marriage and not the mockery the legal system has created under its guise.  Actually, the main reason I got involved with starting this Apostolate was because my marital experience has been so complete and fulfilling, and I was noticing how much of a struggle so many couples were having, even those married in the Catholic Church.  So now I’ll have to make 2 articles out of this with this one being what we’ve experienced in our marriage (the fruits) and the next being how we got here (tips and instruction).

Looking back over 25 years is difficult to say the least, but at the same time it feels like I was in college just yesterday as I currently live just over 3 miles from the campus where we first laid eyes on each other.  No, it wasn’t love at first sight, which I guess lends to the authenticity and soundness.  We met at the Catholic Parish on campus, St. Thomas Aquinas.  We moved in the same circle of friends there and were involved in putting on retreats.  So I knew her as a friend before we dated.  Once we got involved, things escalated pretty quickly as we realized we had fallen into a very workable relationship.  I hate to sound so unromantic because I am extremely romantic but that’s just me and us.  It’s not required for a marriage to sustain itself.  The relationship has to be workable.  So we became engaged 9 months after we first began dating and got married 9 months after that and had our first child 10 months after we got married.  No we didn’t waste any time getting down to business.  Seven kids and 25 years later, it’s really been a whirlwind, and it’s nice to just stop the world and sit back and assess where we’ve been and what we’ve done.  

I’ll get into this more in part 2, but we started by seeking to embrace the Truth of genuine marriage in its most basic sense, childbearing.  We never brought contraception into our marriage, and have been very cautious to ensure we were generous with giving the gift of life.  As the Church teaches regarding the marital act, it should always been unitive and procreative, out of love and open to life.  This has permeated throughout the whole of our marriage.  It seems everything we’ve done has been about our love relationship and about the kids.  We deliberately worked our situation so that we could be with each other and more hands-on with our children.  I’ve always tried to work close to home, at least in the same town, and now right in front of our home, while Missy has homeschooled all of our children since day 1. 

I can’t begin to express the fullness of a life this has given us.  We are nowhere close to being finished as all of our children, even the adult ones, and still here at home, but that won’t be long-term, and we know it.  We are enjoying the time we have left all together.  We also still have young ones left to raise, and we are very satisfied with that.  While the world will tell you that you have to look out for #1 and not live for others and do things for yourself, the “sacrificial” love of marriage and family can’t be rivaled.  I actually saw a video recently to that effect of a lady in her 40’s sadly saying she lived her life for others and now she was going to live for herself.  My heart goes out to those who have lost their way and whose relationships have not worked. 

In the end, it all boils down to commitment.  Nothing would ever come between me and my woman, nothing.  That commitment bears itself out with the welcoming of children.  I think people stop having children because of the commitment they realize is required.  I’m also seeing several of my contemporaries who are willing to admit it tell me they wish they had had more children.  If we had decided to stop at 2, our home would likely be empty now.  Once again, following the timeless guidance of Holy Mother Church pays off with joys that money can’t buy.  If only, if only there were a way to communicate this to the masses.

God bless you+

 

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Homosexual Unions-US Compromising the Truth

Posted By at Tuesday, July 07, 2015

Be not afraid; pray and don't worry.  The Catholic Church has the fullness of the Truth to guide our way of life.  We should not be surprised that governments will lower standards for popular opinion.

 

 

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Why Are Catholic Marriages Failing?

Posted By at Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Here's this week's blog video "unplugged" along with the cited resources.

Are Catholic marriages failing because of lack of communication between spouses or because of lack of grace due to mortal sins of contraception and sterilization/mutilation?  Or is it some more fundamental cause?

 Here is the link to the article "Young men are giving up on marriage: Women aren't women Anymore"

 Here is a link to the talk by a Catholic Priest called "How do you Raise a Man?"

 Masculine and Feminine Genius Series

You Tube playlist link
 

 

 

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The Vanishing Middle Ground -The Current State of Morality

Posted By at Monday, June 29, 2015

I read an excellent book a few years back on the current state and future trend of economics and finance by Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki called Why We Want You to be Rich.  The basic position of the book is that the financial middle class is dwindling and will eventually be no more.  The middle class was a bit of a construct of the 20th century enriched by the baby boom generation, but has since faltered in recent decades and is expected to continue.  I liked the points made by the book and have made efforts to prepare my financial future accordingly.

In the wake of recent Supreme Court decisions here in the United States, the same appears to be applicable to Christianity and morality in general.  With the continual eruption of new protestant innovations of “Christianity” each one brings its own set of manly-created “standards.”  This is no different from the mainline protestant denominations of the likes of Lutheran and Baptist.  This has long been a big concern of mine concerning what many consider to be this “great” nation of ours.  I often hear people say the U.S. is no longer a “Christian” nation, but I wonder if it ever was.  The political whimperings are that we have strayed from the “Christian principles” the country was founded upon.  Admittedly I’m no civics or history scholar (I was educated in this country’s government schools after all), but as best as I can appreciate it, the founders of this nation were almost exclusively protestant.  They wanted to leave England so as to not be forced to practice the state’s religion but also to be able to adopt an unbridled system of capitalism.  That being said, their purpose however was NOT to leave the Anglican religion in order to become Catholic, to search for the complete Truth.  It was largely a fiscal independence they were after.  True, they were practicing the bit of faith they did possess, but just by virtue of being protestant they were not in possession of the fullness of Truth, whether they were ignorant of it, rejected it, or just didn’t accept it.  There were also concerns at the time of the formation of this nation coming from the Catholic prelates of Europe wondering what sort of civilization was being built across the way over the Atlantic.

And so here we are with a nation that really has no moral compass.  Protestantism says to figure it out for yourself.  There really are no moral absolutes.  It’s each person for himself to figure out what God’s law is for him.  Everyone else has to understand that and respect it.  We as Catholics realize there ARE moral absolutes.  With Supreme Court decisions recently decided we find protestants who seem to be longing for some of those absolutes.  I’m reading some things protestants are writing that sound very Catholic.  So could we be moving toward a unity in the faith of “Christians” in our efforts to defend moral Truth?  I hope so.  With events such as these we start to move from this soft, live-and-let-live middle ground that has plagued so many flavors of protestantism and even some Catholic circles.  With no moral absolutes, this nation is not set up to be a Christian nation.  About 100 years ago, contraception was legalized.  So that means for over 100 years since the formation of the country, contraception was illegal.  Under the workings of protestantism, moral relativism can be initiated and practices changed.  My personal belief is that for a nation to be considered “Christian” it would have to implement ALL Catholic moral law as state law.  A person’s theological faith would still be up to them to come to as God calls them, but morality would be consistent for all.  Anyway last time I checked a nation isn’t Christian; an individual person is.  What had made this country good, if not great, was the freedoms we possessed which seem to be fleeting.

So the lines are being drawn in the sand, and we will find out over time who the real Christians are and who are the pretenders:  thus the vanishing middle ground.  "So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth." (Rev. 3:16)  If we look at history, this has played itself out over and over again.  For those of us well-studied Catholics, this should come as no surprise.  But we have the fullness of the Truth, so we are not affected by decisions such as these.  What is a law anyway but a minimum standard of behavior permitted without penalty.  As Catholics we hold ourselves to the highest of standards.  According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the goal is to have no need of the law.  If we live in such a way as to love God perfectly, there is no need for a law.  A law is there to alert us that we have failed to love sufficiently. 

So what do we do?  We continue to live according to the fullness of Truth expressing and experiencing joy for living in the liberty of that Truth.  This joy is infectious.  Have pity on those who are not in possession of this Truth.  The pagans live according to public opinion, civil law, and their own indulgent appetites.  So events such as these are a big interest of theirs.  True we must stay involved to the extent that our state in life allows.  We as Catholics must continue to exercise whatever possible influence we can in these areas.  But in the end, we transmit this Truth to future generations in our homes through the progeny of fruitful family life.  Those pagans who adopt immoral lifestyles of sodomy just die off.  They are living for empty pleasure and will find out soon enough that this does not have the effect of sustained joy.  We must be that witness of joy to this corrupt society.  

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Reflections of a Father of a “Large” Family

Posted By at Sunday, June 21, 2015

I’m enjoying the celebration of my 25th Father’s Day today.  I recall how often my wife and I were told to “not wish the time away” or to “not blink” when the kids were infants as to how quickly their lives would advance and we may miss out on parts of their childhood.  I think we’ve heeded that advice to a large extent, but I must say I still feel that large amounts of time have seemed to slip by me.  Seven children and 25 years later after holding my first infant amazed at God’s creation of humanity, I am now no less humbled.

The Church gives us wonderful guidance as to the direct link between marriage and the acceptance of children, not simply as a right of passage, but more so as a duty to allow God primarily to decide the size of our families.  “A child is not something owed to one, but is a gift. The ‘supreme gift of marriage’ is a human person.” (CCC2378)  “Sacred Scripture and the Church's traditional practice see in large families a sign of God's blessing and the parents' generosity.” (CCC2373)  Fortunately, we have been blessed to have had mentors all along the way during our marriage that have encouraged us to be open to life, to be “generous,” and to receive and accept “God’s blessings.” 

“Called to give life, spouses share in the creative power and fatherhood of God.  ‘Married couples should regard it as their proper mission to transmit human life and to educate their children; they should realize that they are thereby cooperating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain sense, its interpreters. They will fulfill this duty with a sense of human and Christian responsibility.’”  (CCC2367)  I think the reason many men are tempted to and do actually succumb to the tendency to stave off life and not father children, often through mortally sinful means of contraception and mutilation, is that these type of terms and the actual commitment required by this “responsibility” seem so overwhelming that we are not up to the task.  Surely, the society we live in today has given men cause to seriously doubt ourselves.  But this is where we are called to turn our backs on the world, the flesh, and the devil and look toward Truth from God, guidance of the Church, and the power of Grace from the Sacraments.  Today God still enlivens men with strength and power to properly and rightly father and rear children through their various stages of growth from infancy to adulthood.

I often recall hearing Jim Stenson say “we are not called to raise children; we are called to raise adults.”  And this is the realization we currently find ourselves in at this juncture.  There was a lady in front of me in the checkout line at Macy’s yesterday with a 3-week-old infant she was carrying in a sling.  I remarked to her at how beautiful the child was and that our youngest is now 7 years old.  It’s been a long time since we had an infant, and we do miss it; I do miss it.  But that is only when I may have minute quiet moments to pause because our home is still bustling with 9 members all accounted for.  Now with 3 adult children still living here on the verge of embarking upon God’s call for them, we are able to observe the results of nearly a quarter of a century of work we have arduously progressed trough together.  It’s far from perfect, but still in all pretty good.  Of course we dads are pretty hard on ourselves.  We feel that stabbing guilt in our chests when we observe our faults present in our children, and we rightly should.  But how often do we observe with righteous pride our virtues present in our children? 

The other night, Fr. Jeffrey Jambon gave a discourse on fatherhood to our men’s group.  If I may paraphrase a bit, he told us that we men actually get “credit” for the qualities and accomplishment of our children, especially our sons.  He said that our children should imbibe what is present within ourselves and subsequently reflect it in their own actions and the way they eventually conduct their own lives.  What a great responsibility of good example and proper guidance we have as fathers!   Yet, through the grace of God and only through the Grace of God are we up to the task.  It may seem a bit of a sacrifice to embrace such a commitment of fathering since the commitment lasts for a lifetime.  But the rewards are immeasurable when compared to any of the fleeting pleasures of this world.  Knowing that our children are in the image and likeness of God and possess an immortal soul makes the task and toil all worthwhile.

Finally, a bit of a warning to the younger men:  Heed the guidance of the Church on the blessings of a large family.  (I put “large” in the title of this article in quotes because of course that is a relative term.  By today’s standards we do have a large family, but my parents both came from families in which their parents each had 15 children.)  I do often make the warning in our material that when we go the way of the world, only a few years later we wind up with great regret.  Often that is expressed in women who have been deceived by the feminist culture now prevalent who have taken on careers and forgone their greatest opportunities of bearing children only to realize in their 40’s the great treasure they have lost never to be recovered.  These women suffer great pain, and I am truly sorry for them.  But this is not limited to them.  I have had men about my age confide in me that they also went the way of the world only to have 2 or 3 children, who have now gone off to college or to their adult vocations and are experiencing the empty nest in their 40’s.  They admitted to me that they do not like it, are lonely, and wished they had done as we have.  Men, there is irreversible regret from making fundamental poor choices for our own comforts and desires.  All too often men do this through gravely sinful means of contraception and the ultimate cowardly relinquishment of their generative powers by allowing their anatomy to be mutilated, literally severed.  That’s what we do to dogs; this is not manly in any sense.  It is no wonder why there is a lack of manliness and masculinity today with so many who have allowed their manhood to be snipped away.  But that’s a recurring theme for days to come.

Today, let’s celebrate the august calling of Fatherhood, where we as men emulate God the Father in our own homes.  To all the fathers out there, physical and spiritual, a heartfelt Happy Father’s Day!

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VIDEO: The Essence of True Masculinity

Posted By at Monday, June 08, 2015

From his reflection on "Masculine and Feminine Genius," Raylan Alleman balances out some of the misapplications of masculine traits then outlines the case for genuine masculinity.

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VIDEO-MASCULINITY: What it is NOT

Posted By at Tuesday, June 02, 2015

From his reflection on "Masculine and Feminine Genius," Raylan Alleman first looks at the character of masculinity and refutes some popular misunderstandings of the masculine trait. (Part 1 of 5)

 

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VIDEO: What is the meaning of Mutual Submission in Marriage?

Posted By at Tuesday, June 02, 2015

Based on the popular passage from St. Paul's letter to the Ephesians, many Catholics have embraced "mutual submission" as the carte blanche rule of doctrine of the day in their marriages, and has left a path of destruction for Catholic family life.  Get an understanding of the real meaning and why it must be understood in the context of traditional marital roles.