Catholic Masculinity - Strength

Posted By at Monday, February 08, 2016

God has given men a trait of strength.  How are we to use this trait in today's world?  Here we look at strength in terms of stamina, courage, and consistency along with the practice of purity to maintain preserve strength


What is a Catholic Man's Purpose?

Posted By at Sunday, January 31, 2016

The Catholic man is not made for this world, not living to be steeped in its pleasures.  We are meant to change the world, to make it more pleasing to Christ.


Let’s talk about purpose.  What’s our purpose?  Okay, you young guys over here, you ever think about that? What’s my purpose?  Why am I here?  Is it just to jump out into the world as soon as we can and just “go with the flow” like an amoeba? Just to float along?  Because “the flow” isn’t going to take you to a real good place. 

Is the worldliness, we have the capital sin of covetousness. That’s about wanting too many monetary or too many physical things, being steeped in the pleasures.  If that’s our main focus, if we think that’s our purpose, how are we going to change the world? Sing some Clapton with me: “If I could change the world…” That’s right.  Don’t we want to change the world? We see it all up here, we see the problems.  Are we going to be an agent of change?  Because if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.  We see the problems in the Church that are out there, and Venerable Fulton J. Sheen said, “Who’s going to change the Church? Who’s going to bring the Church back? Who’s going to fix the Church?” Who did Bishop Sheen say?  The laity.  Not the priests, not the bishops, not the cardinals, not the pope. Us.  How are we going to do that? 

I got this highlighted in my notes.   If we are more steeped in pleasures, then we surrender control over. We get to be out of control.  Because as I said we become part of somebody else’s plan, and they have not much planned for you.  So a lot of times a lot of these trinkets, gadgets, go fun things and all, somebody wants you to part with your dollars and part with your time for them to be on the receiving end of that.  And that’s what I’m saying, you’re handing over control.  If you don’t have it planned out, “I’m going to spend X amount of time, and I’m going to spend X amount of money doing this for my recreation.”  But if we just give into impulses, we give into emotions, and we just go and do, then we’re over-extended on time, and we’re over-extended on money.

This video is part of a full presentation that can be found here:


Today's Apostolic Catholic Man

Posted By at Monday, January 25, 2016

Today's Catholic man needs to stir things up and bring his Faith out into the world that sorely needs.  There are so many things we can do if we only have the desire and the courage.  Pope Francis said "I want people to go out."  


I don’t want to crash everyone’s party but Father was here the other night and at the pulpit the other day saying “it was a nice time whenever everything was hunky dory and we could kick up our feet and relax, but those days are over.” 

What else do we have to do? What else is on the tripod? Action. Action. What are we going to do? Do we know enough to teach other people? Can we start a blog that’s going to reach people? Can you maintain it?  Can you keep it going?  Can you keep pushing content out?  We have some tech-savvy people in here.  But do you have the content to put it out there? If you’re not there yet, social media.  Let me plug and ‘Fix The Family’ on Facebook.  You want to shake up your friends? Shake up your friend list? Share.  Just share  Go to our page and share.  There’s stuff we’re putting out there that no other Catholic site is putting out because they don’t want to touch it.  But is it important to you, enough for you to share that way it might make your friends kind of question something?  You don’t have to argue with them.  If they want to ask questions, then answer the questions.  But if they just want to throw darts, then be a man. Take the darts.  That was on that masculinity thing we listened to, just take it.  Look at Our Lord.  What happened to Him? That’s going to happen to you if you stand up for this.  So take whatever they got.  Like I told a guy the other day, “That’s all you got? Is that it? Done?”

On that note, that’s called evangelizing. That’s kind of a word that is kind of maybe not too understandable, a little bit intangible. “Let’s go evangelize.”  Days of St. Paul.  But today the market place and the gathering place is in social media.  That’s where people are hanging out.  That’s where you can make a difference. That’s evangelizing.

The other things that are really heavy right now: pro-life activities.  Those of y’all that are older, that can get around on your own, go get involved in the pro-life movement, in these rallies.  And there’s people that are doing a lot of educating and making a big difference on that.  The TFP (, the witness that they stand up for in morality, doing some very heavy duty work.  They are always looking for new people, get involved and go do something. Pope Francis: he said make a mess, make some noise.  Do not conform.  That’s the modernism thing we were hearing about, whenever you just “live and let live” and don’t ever say anything.  Do not conform. This is what Pope Francis said in Rio when he was at World Youth Day. He said, “What are the consequences? Expect to be the consequences of World Youth Day? I expect a mess.  There will be one.  There will be a mess here in Rio.  There will be, but I want a mess in the dioceses.  I want people to go out.  I want the Church to go out to the street.  I want us to defend ourselves against everything that is worldliness, that is insulation, that is comfortableness…” Remember what I said, satan wants you lazy? “…That is clericalism, that is being shut in on ourselves.  The parishes, schools, institutions exist to go out.”

This video is part of a full presentation that can be found here:



The Catholic Roots of Family Patriarchy

Posted By at Monday, January 18, 2016

"Thou art Peter; and upon this rock I will build my church..." (Matthew 16:18) Jesus Christ declared St. Peter the visible head of the Catholic Church, but this commission was prefigured long before Our Lord spoke these words.  Similarly, we find that this commissioning is a calling for all husbands to establish holy Catholic patriarchies within their homes, making themselves the rock upon which their domestic church is built.


The Temple of the Holy Spirit

Posted By at Sunday, January 17, 2016

The body is the temple of the Holy Spirit according to St. Paul.  How well are we taking care of it?


Finally one last thing to this: As Jim Rohn says “What’s the body? The temple of the Holy Spirit.” It’s the only place you’ve got to live. Are you taking care of it? The young guys, they walk around with muscles and all. They spend some time working out.  But then are you doing the cardio? And then a lot of times, once you get married, now we’re not on the prowl anymore. Now we just kind of let it all…

I don’t know about all of that’s what I’ve heard.  But again if you’re going to do that stuff, it takes planning right? You don’t have a plan? You’re not going to do it.  You’re just going to fall.

So if you don’t have a plan, you become part of somebody else’s plan. And you know what they have planned for you? Not much. Did you ever notice that people who have nothing to do want to do it with you?

God bless you.

This video is part of a full presentation that can be found here:


Catholic Family Goals 2016

Posted By at Monday, January 11, 2016

Have you made your new year's resolutions?  Here's a way to make them stick.  But take it  a step further.  Let's set some more meaningful family-oriented goals and put into motion those tasks and routines that will make them become reality.


VIDEO: The Greatest Opportunity to Change the World

Posted By at Tuesday, January 05, 2016

Seeing problems in the world?  Would you like the change it?  Here's a great opportunity.


Here’s what I think is the greatest opportunity for all of us, especially the young guys over here, to change the world.  And it’s not to build skyscrapers or to even have a cure for cancer or dig a tunnel to Japan.  It’s the most natural thing that we could do, and that’s what you’ve witnessed a lot in your own life, is family. Families, big families is what can make a big difference.  Just the families in this room, and then growing families. 

If you’re young, have as your purpose moving toward getting married and having a family. Now of course the highest thing would be a priest or religious, but again that’s going to be a minority of those that are going to do that.  The vast majority are going to end up getting married.  But again if you’re so worried about possession of physical things you might put that off too long. If you’re already married, consider expanding your family. Become natural. It’s the teaching of the Church. Be open to life. Don’t let the world shut you down. They’re going to discourage you. They’re going to say, “You ain’t done yet?!” This, that, or whatever.  That’s not Christian. That’s not reality. That’s artificial.

Beyond child bearing, continue to form the hearts and minds of those that are in your family.  Your wife, children, because look, the world is relentless on wearing you out and wearing you down and wanting you to give up your standards.

Raise a family with solid standards. That’s going to change the world.  To be a visible witness and often very little has to be said. You do have to take a stand and say things at times, but just by being that visible witness as a family speaks volumes.


This is part of a lecture on Living on Purpose and can be found here



VIDEO: Spiritual Commitments for Catholic Men

Posted By at Tuesday, December 08, 2015

More than ever today Catholic men have to be consistent with their spiritual commitments and astute with their knowledge of the faith in order that they not be lost or have their families lose the faith.


VIDEO: Financial Tips for Catholic Men

Posted By at Monday, November 30, 2015

Here Raylan Alleman presents some very fundamental Catholic concepts as they apply to finances in the areas of income, spending, saving, and debt.



Okay, how do we get from Point A to Point B? Let’s say start a family or increase your family or teach your family. Let’s start with the basics.  Let’s start with finances, you got to eat right? Okay so, I’m talking to especially the young men over here.  To have a large family, it would be tough for the wife and mother also to work, because then her work gets in the way of having, bearing and raising children.  So we want to be the sole provider right? That’s very Catholic.  It’s tough, I want to tell you, it’s tough no matter what you’re doing.  No matter what kind of occupation you have, it’s tough.  So you’ve got to be tough, and that’s why you have to build your character.

A big part of that is those that make a decent income are the best at what they do.  So whatever craft you decide to go with, whatever skill, make sure, for one thing make sure it’s a skill that has value.  How many times have we heard Jim Rohn say, “Bring value to the market place.” And then get really good at it.  Become the best. The younger guys, as you get started, gain value. You’re not experience you’re gaining experience, you might not have a lot of control over your income. But what you do have control over is your spending. So we’ve got to learn the skill of saving your money. Because when you have a family and a wife is dependent on you, and the kids are dependent on you, you’re going to need something stashed away. Times will get tough. Things will come up. Like I was saying, they want you to be part of their plan. They want you to part with your dollar, so you can go play, go buy trinkets or something. Even if you’re making a little money, and go spend it on all these things, where’s it going to be later on when you need it?

It’s very Catholic concepts of self-denial, not giving into pleasure, self-control. And what’s unique about the country in which we live, you can actually do that, exercise some good Catholic virtues and it still benefits you, because we have free enterprise.  It’s not always the same in other countries with different economic systems, so it works here.  I don’t want to rain on everybody’s parade and all that, but you know Zig, what Zig said? He said, “If you do the things you have to do, then some day will come when you can eventually do the things that you want to do.”

And finally on finances, be careful of any kind of debt. Debt can just strangle a family’s finances. The common one for people most people in this country is going to be college loans and cars.  Because once we got out of school, you could see every going to buy the new car. Take out the loan.  We all need transportation. Be reasonable. Hopefully you don’t have to borrow to pay for your transportation. That’s the ideal. But if you do, be very frugal on your purchase.

This is part of a lecture on Living on Purpose and can be found here


VIDEO: A Protestant Culture Has No Standards

Posted By at Monday, November 23, 2015

When a society creates rules and laws based upon what a majority of people agree on, it arrives at a situation where no real moral standards exist.  This is where America and much of the western world currently finds itself.