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Obama Mandate Produces Urgency for Catholic Homeschooling

Posted By at Monday, May 23, 2016

 

The American Muslim sympathizer in chief has ordered  that federal funds be withheld from government schools that don't accommodate use of female restrooms by  "transgender" males.  This is an urgent call from Catholic dads to protect our daughters.  Homeschooling is the answer.

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It's OK to be a Woman

Posted By at Monday, May 16, 2016

I have great news for you ladies out there:  It’s OK to be a woman.  Actually, in many cases it’s a wonderful thing.  If that’s the gender in which God created you, it’s a beautiful thing to be a woman.  It appears that at least in the Western world today, being a woman is just totally unfair, and instead you have to be just like a man.  And if you can’t be just like a man, you have to join a brigade of militant feminists to fight for your rights to be just like a man.  Why, after all you should even be able to go and die for your country if you feel so inclined.

The problem with all these agenda of the militant feminists is that they are hostile to those women (most) who wish to just be ladies.  This has taken on all sorts of manifestations in all spheres of society.  A little girl is immediately sent to school once she is a certain age to begin the indoctrination.  She will start out in pre-school and may wish to play with a baby doll which is natural but then is forced to play with a tractor that she really has no interest in.  During the course of her academic career she my feel in her heart that she wants to be a wife and mother in the home as our Church elevates, but she will be humiliated and coerced into choosing a field of study that will propel her into a “fulfilling and lucrative career” so that she won’t have to depend on her husband.  If she manages to hold to her convictions and does find a man who will value her femininity to marry and they live as the Church teaches being open to children and having a large family society will look down on her as a second rate citizen.  Oh, but those types won’t have the courage to say so to her face.  They are polite up front.  When asking a committed full-time wife and mother what she does and receiving the response, they will say something like “Oh, that’s so good” with a polite smile, while really thinking in the back of their minds “Oh that poor, poor woman.  She’s trapped.”  They see her as second rate because she is not producing an income.  They would never say that.  They will accuse the husband as seeing her as second rate because he is “forcing” her to stay home and not “allowing” her to go out and work.

These are all defense mechanisms that naturally kick in to those who have been blinded by the feminist lies all around in our society.  They take on various degrees, forms, and manifestations.  I heard of probably the most severe one recently from a friend.  His little girl had a severe illness that required an extended hospital stay and some long-term treatment.  He and his wife have 7 other children, and his wife is a stay at home mother.  During the course of the hospital stay and treatment there were various levels of male and female healthcare providers that cared for the little girl-nurses, techs, medical students, fellows, interns, doctors, and specialists.  They each individually noticed a stark contrast among ALL the providers with one possible exception.  ALL of the male providers were very attentive, compassionate, and connecting with the little girl, making sure she was comfortable, asking if she needed anything, even what her doll’s name was.  ALL of the female providers (except possibly 1) were all business, cold, with no bedside manner.  They were stunned.  They asked a medical provider who also would be one to see things as they do from a religious and philosophical standpoint the reason for this contrast.  They were told that it is a clear defense mechanism.  Those women see a mother with a husband and many children and realize they are never going to have that kind of life.  They have accumulated so much debt and are so far into their commitment to their field that their job will be their life.

For Catholic women, it’s not supposed to be that way.  This situation is an outgrowth of a Western covetous culture that values possessions over people.  The contraceptive pill has destroyed the family fabric of our culture and is a fundamental tool of this lifestyle.  It is what robs a female of her womanhood.  When a female is sexually active she will normally eventually become pregnant.  That’s what healthy females do.  For a Catholic woman, this should only be within the loving permanent commitment of a marriage so that the child will be raised in a functional normal household with a mother and a father.  Pope Francis has said that children deserve this.  If she doesn’t become pregnant then something is wrong; she is said to be “infertile.”  Contraception is not medicine.  It makes healthy women sick and dysfunctional.  Females who mutilate their bodies by removing their reproductive organs DISABLE their womanhood.  This is an affront to God and His creation.    Feminists will actually come out and say that women are not meant to be “brood mares, always pregnant.”  What a disgusting way to refer to the transmission of human life, to give life to a soul.  Catholics need to realize when they are being told or are themselves telling evil maxims of the devil.  The Church has always elevated motherhood for married women and has always reinforced the primacy of bearing and raising children as the purpose of marriage.  When women follow the pagan trends of a culture, they move away from the principles advocated by Holy Mother Church and degrade themselves.

We want you to know that it is not only OK, but actually beautiful for women to be women.  Even further, it is VITAL for the culture to sustain itself.  In the past when my wife and I have prepared couples for marriage, we would tell them some of these things.  When telling us about themselves they would say the things they thought we wanted to hear and what society accepts as “responsible” like getting a degree and pursuing a career.  When we would reply with the facets of a genuine Catholic lifestyle, they actually seemed relieved as though they knew it all along and would be happy to pursue this lifestyle.  In most cases unfortunately, society and parental influence would override their natural inclinations (with the assistance of contraception).  We see this and hear about this regarding many Catholic parents.  I would just have to say to them to remember the words of the Lord with regard to the influence over children:  “It would be better for him if a millstone were put around his neck and he be thrown into the sea than for him to cause one of these little ones to sin.” (Luke 17:2)

God bless you.

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Catholic Masculinity - Faith

Posted By at Tuesday, May 10, 2016

In this final segment of the Catholic Masculinity series, we discuss the matter of faith in a man's life, the aspect of faith as a gift, and then how faith relates to the reality and necessity of money.
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Catholic Masculinity - Discipline

Posted By at Monday, May 02, 2016

 

In session 6 , we talk about Discipline including the practices of self-denial, self-control, and the virtue of temperance.  We must discipline ourselves first before we receive the fruits of our labors.

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Please pardon my absence from the blog for the past few months, but we here at Fix the Family practice what we teach.  I have a highly seasonal occupation that “taxes” my time the first 4 months of the year as well as the end of every year, and my family is totally dependent upon my occupation for its sustenance so that my wife can tend to the higher matters of being a wife and mother in the home and is not distracted by outside employment.  Nevertheless, I am back.  Incidentally, this also comes at a time when my first book will be soon published and available to you, and that has occupied a great deal of my time with the Apostolate as well, in addition to the normal duties of being a husband and father for my wife and children.  Be sure to also LIKE our Facebook page and follow us there.  This is our principal marketing and outreach vehicle, and we are always posting and sharing relevant content there even during my busy seasonal time.  All is well at the Citadel I am happy to report, and we are progressing through life in dramatic fashion. 

That being said, my 3rd son is graduating from high school next month.  So, as has become a bit of a tradition in our family, we together went yesterday to acquire a cell phone for him, what I call a “not-smart phone,” or what he says is properly called a “basic phone.”   Yes, he is about to be 18 years old and is now getting his first cell phone which is not a smart phone.  Now I know that will strike the world with sheer amazement and disbelief, but this is part of the method to the process we have in raising our children.  No we do not go the way of the world, and by the time they get a cell phone, they really need one.  I realize that parents who send their children to school feel a justification for them having one, but I’m still not convinced about the need for smart phone except from a peer pressure standpoint which is not justifiable.  I can see no way in justifying the astronomical cost of a smart phone (principally the monthly data service charges) for what simply amounts to be a toy.  Strong deliberate parents should heed this example.  For those ADULT children still under my care (and roof) we’ve found a good compromise for those interested in the wireless data connectivity to be a non-phone device (i-pod touch) that uses wi-fi when available that won’t require monthly data service charges.

So we went to one of the big service providers yesterday, or several I should say, and picked up for him a non-smart/basic phone.  So the young lady who was probably in her early 20’s started asking questions.  She was complimentary in a parent bringing his son at nearly 18 years old to get a phone and not diving in to the i-phone 7 immediately.  I thanked her, and pointed out it is our method to gradually step into and through things of this nature more later than earlier.  She went on to say she had served a mother earlier in the day who was purchasing an i-phone 7 for her 12-year-old daughter, par for the course in America.  (Incidentally, I have never owned an Apple product more than a week [0 compatibility and 100% proprietary were my principal issues], but I was holding Apple stock when the i-phone first came out and made a killing.)  So, in her questioning she asked if he had a job.  He said “yes.”  She said that was good.  She asked who he worked for; he told her.  She said that was good.  I interjected with a question of if they were hiring.  That took her by surprise, and she hesitatingly said “Well…yes, but I believe you have to have a degree to work here.”  I was all astonishment.  I literally LOL’d (laughed out loud) in a cell phone outlet.  I said “WHAT?!  You have to have a degree to sell cell phones?”  Then I asked her “How do you use your degree in this job?”  She said frankly and matter-of-fact-ly “My degree has nothing to do with this job.  I was a political science/government major.”

BINGO! ladies and gentlemen.  Yes, graduation season is upon us and it give us a great opportunity to consider those profound points in our article 6 Reasons (+2) to NOT Send Your Daughter to College.   The value of a college degree has been severely depleted in addition to those 8 reasons, so much so that to work retail for some outlets it is “required.”  I know my son currently graduating from high school would easily be able to do that job quite proficiently since my brilliant wife has done such a magnificent job of educating him for the last 12 years. 

It turns out that the brilliant logic I presented in 6 Reasons, which obviously escaped many people (mostly women) and drew great vitriol and anger, was actually spot on.   A friend recently alerted me to a homily given by a devout Catholic Priest called The Errors of Russia:  Their Plan and the Plan of Heaven.  I encourage everyone reading this to stop here and listen to this homily.  It is less than 23 minutes long.  If that is too much to ask, I would say to start listening at about the 14:00 point.  Here he gets into warning the Catholic faithful of my Reason #2.  The homily is oriented around an over century-long process to destroy the Catholic Church carried out by Communists in conjunction with Masons.  Their 2-prong attack is to corrupt the Priesthood and corrupt women.  They are carrying out a revolution with the use of sexuality, thus the sexual revolution.  This was discovered by Masonic documents that were given to the Holy See in the 1800’s, and the popes ordered that the plans be published. 

Toward the corruption of women’s morals, it was noticed that it was very difficult to get women to compromise themselves alone.  But when placed in a group setting where the appearance was that all the women were sexually promiscuous, it became much easier.  One of the main settings where this was carried out was on college campuses.  Some key quotes that all Catholic parents should ponder regarding the decision to send their children to college are as follows:

  1. A student resident assistant (RA) at Loyola University in Chicago, a Catholic University, told her professor when he stated that sexual activity by the students was voluntary and not obligatory, “Doctor your are mistaken…The peer pressure, and the way things are set up make promiscuity practically obligatory.  It doesn’t matter what the school says officially; the rules are there to be broken.  This freedom can make girls dizzy and unsure about whatever else they believe about saving one’s self for marriage.  When it seems like everyone else is doing it, it is hard to say no.  I deal with it…everyday as an RA.” (17:90-18:30)
  2. In most American college co-ed dorms the flesh of our daughters is being served up daily like snack jerky. The gates are wide open, and no guards have been posted.  (18:30-19:05)
  3. The sex carnival that is college life today is also doing great damage to our sons’ characters.  I’m witnessing a perceptible dissipation of manly virtue in the young men I teach.  I’m prepared to ask whether America might not be lost because a great middle class was persuaded that they must send their children to college with no questions asked when in fact this is the near equivalent of committing their sons and daughters to one of the circles of Dante’s Inferno.  Lenin is absolutely right.  The success of a revolution depends on the degree of participation by women.   (19:05-19:41)

You see in my initial article, there is no sexism there.  What I was saying is reflected in these points made by a devout Priest.  Now the most common objections to the article we received from Catholics were 2-fold.  First, parents claimed that they were sending their daughters to college “just in case” they were abandoned or widowed.  So the claim was that they would just get a degree for the purpose of being “educated” but then not get a job and instead commit themselves to their families.  However, we can see that this rarely actually happens because they feel they need to make use of the degree that they worked so hard to get.  They further justify this saying a recent pope said that women’s contribution to society is necessary.  So is it worth offering their flesh up to undeserving college boys “just in case” and to contribute to society?  Parents this must be considered.  There are other ways to replace income in the case of a loss.  Are we that covetous that we have to sacrifice our morals in order to attempt ensure an income.  Doesn’t the Church place poverty above immorality?   Maybe a family would have to struggle.  There is great virtue in that.  Are women so prideful that they insist they must make a “contribution” to society and sacrifice their prime childbearing years?  Parents, think on these things.

Then the other common objection is why I did not apply these objections to boys.  Well, many of those objections do apply except that men and women are as different as our anatomies.  Our place in life bears that out.  Husbands are tasked with providing for their families.  In some cases a degree is necessary.  When it is, extreme caution should be taken when embarking upon this reality.  Commuter colleges and community colleges are much better settings for young Catholic men who MUST get a degree for the vocation to which God is calling them.  But as for women, the common justifications are just plain false.  The young ladies end up losing their purity, getting their degrees, and entering the workforce.  They get married eventually, and their husbands are not manly enough to know their wives should not work.  They depend on both incomes so their childbearing is further suppressed. 

Catholics, understand the Communists' plan has been orchestrated and executed quite successfully.  The average Catholic’s lifestyle is just as pagan as the world’s.  The problem is that most Catholics are doing nothing to resist it but are diving headlong into it by way of their children.  It’s time to wake up and realize Catholics really are called to be different and not conform to the ways of the world.  Or you could just go with the flow and watch your child get a prestigious job selling cell phones at Verizon.

God bless you+

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Catholic Masculinity - Standards

Posted By at Monday, March 28, 2016

In Session 5 of this series we discuss standards of a genuine Catholic man including how he should dress, behave as a gentlemen with dignity, behave during courtship, and the attitude he should possess.

 

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Catholic Masculinity - Focus

Posted By at Sunday, February 28, 2016

Catholic men need to stay focused on their purpose.  In order to do so we should have goals we seek to achieve and refer to them often.  To aid us in focus we need to be aware of the many distractions that exist in our environments and ways to overcome or eliminate them

 

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Catholic Masculinity - Commitment

Posted By at Sunday, February 21, 2016

A common criticism of men today is that we lack commitment.  Here we consider what it means to honor commitments as well as consider what we are to commit to in the way of identifying a purpose and ordering our actions toward intended specific results

 

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Catholic Masculinity - Training

Posted By at Monday, February 15, 2016

As Catholic men we can train ourselves into effective men who can lead families well.  Here we consider the formation of good habits and developing a rule of life that will fit into a Catholic family man's  perspective.
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Catholic Masculinity - Strength

Posted By at Monday, February 08, 2016

God has given men a trait of strength.  How are we to use this trait in today's world?  Here we look at strength in terms of stamina, courage, and consistency along with the practice of purity to maintain preserve strength