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Why Are Catholic Marriages Failing?

Posted By at Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Here's this week's blog video "unplugged" along with the cited resources.

Are Catholic marriages failing because of lack of communication between spouses or because of lack of grace due to mortal sins of contraception and sterilization/mutilation?  Or is it some more fundamental cause?

 Here is the link to the article "Young men are giving up on marriage: Women aren't women Anymore"

 Here is a link to the talk by a Catholic Priest called "How do you Raise a Man?"

 Masculine and Feminine Genius Series

You Tube playlist link
 

 

 

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The Vanishing Middle Ground -The Current State of Morality

Posted By at Monday, June 29, 2015

I read an excellent book a few years back on the current state and future trend of economics and finance by Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki called Why We Want You to be Rich.  The basic position of the book is that the financial middle class is dwindling and will eventually be no more.  The middle class was a bit of a construct of the 20th century enriched by the baby boom generation, but has since faltered in recent decades and is expected to continue.  I liked the points made by the book and have made efforts to prepare my financial future accordingly.

In the wake of recent Supreme Court decisions here in the United States, the same appears to be applicable to Christianity and morality in general.  With the continual eruption of new protestant innovations of “Christianity” each one brings its own set of manly-created “standards.”  This is no different from the mainline protestant denominations of the likes of Lutheran and Baptist.  This has long been a big concern of mine concerning what many consider to be this “great” nation of ours.  I often hear people say the U.S. is no longer a “Christian” nation, but I wonder if it ever was.  The political whimperings are that we have strayed from the “Christian principles” the country was founded upon.  Admittedly I’m no civics or history scholar (I was educated in this country’s government schools after all), but as best as I can appreciate it, the founders of this nation were almost exclusively protestant.  They wanted to leave England so as to not be forced to practice the state’s religion but also to be able to adopt an unbridled system of capitalism.  That being said, their purpose however was NOT to leave the Anglican religion in order to become Catholic, to search for the complete Truth.  It was largely a fiscal independence they were after.  True, they were practicing the bit of faith they did possess, but just by virtue of being protestant they were not in possession of the fullness of Truth, whether they were ignorant of it, rejected it, or just didn’t accept it.  There were also concerns at the time of the formation of this nation coming from the Catholic prelates of Europe wondering what sort of civilization was being built across the way over the Atlantic.

And so here we are with a nation that really has no moral compass.  Protestantism says to figure it out for yourself.  There really are no moral absolutes.  It’s each person for himself to figure out what God’s law is for him.  Everyone else has to understand that and respect it.  We as Catholics realize there ARE moral absolutes.  With Supreme Court decisions recently decided we find protestants who seem to be longing for some of those absolutes.  I’m reading some things protestants are writing that sound very Catholic.  So could we be moving toward a unity in the faith of “Christians” in our efforts to defend moral Truth?  I hope so.  With events such as these we start to move from this soft, live-and-let-live middle ground that has plagued so many flavors of protestantism and even some Catholic circles.  With no moral absolutes, this nation is not set up to be a Christian nation.  About 100 years ago, contraception was legalized.  So that means for over 100 years since the formation of the country, contraception was illegal.  Under the workings of protestantism, moral relativism can be initiated and practices changed.  My personal belief is that for a nation to be considered “Christian” it would have to implement ALL Catholic moral law as state law.  A person’s theological faith would still be up to them to come to as God calls them, but morality would be consistent for all.  Anyway last time I checked a nation isn’t Christian; an individual person is.  What had made this country good, if not great, was the freedoms we possessed which seem to be fleeting.

So the lines are being drawn in the sand, and we will find out over time who the real Christians are and who are the pretenders:  thus the vanishing middle ground.  "So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth." (Rev. 3:16)  If we look at history, this has played itself out over and over again.  For those of us well-studied Catholics, this should come as no surprise.  But we have the fullness of the Truth, so we are not affected by decisions such as these.  What is a law anyway but a minimum standard of behavior permitted without penalty.  As Catholics we hold ourselves to the highest of standards.  According to St. Thomas Aquinas, the goal is to have no need of the law.  If we live in such a way as to love God perfectly, there is no need for a law.  A law is there to alert us that we have failed to love sufficiently. 

So what do we do?  We continue to live according to the fullness of Truth expressing and experiencing joy for living in the liberty of that Truth.  This joy is infectious.  Have pity on those who are not in possession of this Truth.  The pagans live according to public opinion, civil law, and their own indulgent appetites.  So events such as these are a big interest of theirs.  True we must stay involved to the extent that our state in life allows.  We as Catholics must continue to exercise whatever possible influence we can in these areas.  But in the end, we transmit this Truth to future generations in our homes through the progeny of fruitful family life.  Those pagans who adopt immoral lifestyles of sodomy just die off.  They are living for empty pleasure and will find out soon enough that this does not have the effect of sustained joy.  We must be that witness of joy to this corrupt society.  

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Always be ready to give an explanation to anyone who asks you for a reason for your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence, keeping your conscience clear, so that, when you are maligned, those who defame your good conduct in Christ may themselves be put to shame.  (1Pet 3:15-16)

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Reflections of a Father of a “Large” Family

Posted By at Sunday, June 21, 2015

I’m enjoying the celebration of my 25th Father’s Day today.  I recall how often my wife and I were told to “not wish the time away” or to “not blink” when the kids were infants as to how quickly their lives would advance and we may miss out on parts of their childhood.  I think we’ve heeded that advice to a large extent, but I must say I still feel that large amounts of time have seemed to slip by me.  Seven children and 25 years later after holding my first infant amazed at God’s creation of humanity, I am now no less humbled.

The Church gives us wonderful guidance as to the direct link between marriage and the acceptance of children, not simply as a right of passage, but more so as a duty to allow God primarily to decide the size of our families.  “A child is not something owed to one, but is a gift. The ‘supreme gift of marriage’ is a human person.” (CCC2378)  “Sacred Scripture and the Church's traditional practice see in large families a sign of God's blessing and the parents' generosity.” (CCC2373)  Fortunately, we have been blessed to have had mentors all along the way during our marriage that have encouraged us to be open to life, to be “generous,” and to receive and accept “God’s blessings.” 

“Called to give life, spouses share in the creative power and fatherhood of God.  ‘Married couples should regard it as their proper mission to transmit human life and to educate their children; they should realize that they are thereby cooperating with the love of God the Creator and are, in a certain sense, its interpreters. They will fulfill this duty with a sense of human and Christian responsibility.’”  (CCC2367)  I think the reason many men are tempted to and do actually succumb to the tendency to stave off life and not father children, often through mortally sinful means of contraception and mutilation, is that these type of terms and the actual commitment required by this “responsibility” seem so overwhelming that we are not up to the task.  Surely, the society we live in today has given men cause to seriously doubt ourselves.  But this is where we are called to turn our backs on the world, the flesh, and the devil and look toward Truth from God, guidance of the Church, and the power of Grace from the Sacraments.  Today God still enlivens men with strength and power to properly and rightly father and rear children through their various stages of growth from infancy to adulthood.

I often recall hearing Jim Stenson say “we are not called to raise children; we are called to raise adults.”  And this is the realization we currently find ourselves in at this juncture.  There was a lady in front of me in the checkout line at Macy’s yesterday with a 3-week-old infant she was carrying in a sling.  I remarked to her at how beautiful the child was and that our youngest is now 7 years old.  It’s been a long time since we had an infant, and we do miss it; I do miss it.  But that is only when I may have minute quiet moments to pause because our home is still bustling with 9 members all accounted for.  Now with 3 adult children still living here on the verge of embarking upon God’s call for them, we are able to observe the results of nearly a quarter of a century of work we have arduously progressed trough together.  It’s far from perfect, but still in all pretty good.  Of course we dads are pretty hard on ourselves.  We feel that stabbing guilt in our chests when we observe our faults present in our children, and we rightly should.  But how often do we observe with righteous pride our virtues present in our children? 

The other night, Fr. Jeffrey Jambon gave a discourse on fatherhood to our men’s group.  If I may paraphrase a bit, he told us that we men actually get “credit” for the qualities and accomplishment of our children, especially our sons.  He said that our children should imbibe what is present within ourselves and subsequently reflect it in their own actions and the way they eventually conduct their own lives.  What a great responsibility of good example and proper guidance we have as fathers!   Yet, through the grace of God and only through the Grace of God are we up to the task.  It may seem a bit of a sacrifice to embrace such a commitment of fathering since the commitment lasts for a lifetime.  But the rewards are immeasurable when compared to any of the fleeting pleasures of this world.  Knowing that our children are in the image and likeness of God and possess an immortal soul makes the task and toil all worthwhile.

Finally, a bit of a warning to the younger men:  Heed the guidance of the Church on the blessings of a large family.  (I put “large” in the title of this article in quotes because of course that is a relative term.  By today’s standards we do have a large family, but my parents both came from families in which their parents each had 15 children.)  I do often make the warning in our material that when we go the way of the world, only a few years later we wind up with great regret.  Often that is expressed in women who have been deceived by the feminist culture now prevalent who have taken on careers and forgone their greatest opportunities of bearing children only to realize in their 40’s the great treasure they have lost never to be recovered.  These women suffer great pain, and I am truly sorry for them.  But this is not limited to them.  I have had men about my age confide in me that they also went the way of the world only to have 2 or 3 children, who have now gone off to college or to their adult vocations and are experiencing the empty nest in their 40’s.  They admitted to me that they do not like it, are lonely, and wished they had done as we have.  Men, there is irreversible regret from making fundamental poor choices for our own comforts and desires.  All too often men do this through gravely sinful means of contraception and the ultimate cowardly relinquishment of their generative powers by allowing their anatomy to be mutilated, literally severed.  That’s what we do to dogs; this is not manly in any sense.  It is no wonder why there is a lack of manliness and masculinity today with so many who have allowed their manhood to be snipped away.  But that’s a recurring theme for days to come.

Today, let’s celebrate the august calling of Fatherhood, where we as men emulate God the Father in our own homes.  To all the fathers out there, physical and spiritual, a heartfelt Happy Father’s Day!

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VIDEO: The Essence of True Masculinity

Posted By at Monday, June 08, 2015

From his reflection on "Masculine and Feminine Genius," Raylan Alleman balances out some of the misapplications of masculine traits then outlines the case for genuine masculinity.

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VIDEO-MASCULINITY: What it is NOT

Posted By at Tuesday, June 02, 2015

From his reflection on "Masculine and Feminine Genius," Raylan Alleman first looks at the character of masculinity and refutes some popular misunderstandings of the masculine trait. (Part 1 of 5)

 

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VIDEO: What is the meaning of Mutual Submission in Marriage?

Posted By at Tuesday, June 02, 2015

Based on the popular passage from St. Paul's letter to the Ephesians, many Catholics have embraced "mutual submission" as the carte blanche rule of doctrine of the day in their marriages, and has left a path of destruction for Catholic family life.  Get an understanding of the real meaning and why it must be understood in the context of traditional marital roles.
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Taking Care of Business-Season 6

Posted By at Monday, May 25, 2015

One of the most memorable teachings I recall from my early adulthood spirituality came from Mother Angelica when she emphasized the duties of a person’s state in life.  I vividly remember her saying that daily Mass is a wonderful practice but is not required for all Catholics (I’m paraphrasing from memory) and actually may not be a good practice for a parent who should otherwise be home tending to their family.  Fortunately, I have developed my adulthood life around a group of men that share such a philosophy.  Daily Mass is just one example of things that may have to be forgone due to duty among many others.  The point is to emphasize the priority of the duties of the state in life, mainly that of family leaders, not to diminish the importance of Holy Mass.  Actually, our degree of holiness is determined by how well we satisfy the duties of our state in life.  According to Jean-Pierre de Caussade in his classic work Abandonment to Divine Providence (p.24), “If the business of becoming holy seems to present insufferable difficulties, it is merely because we have a wrong idea about it.  In reality, holiness consists of one thing only:  complete loyalty to God’s will.  Now everyone can practice this loyalty, whether actively or passively.  To be actively loyal means obeying the laws of God and the Church and fulfilling all the duties imposed on us by our way of life.” (my emphasis added)

Personally my state in life is primarily the provider for my family as required by God in Genesis 3:19.  I am blessed to be able to practice an occupation that is very fulfilling and a good use of my God-given abilities and at the same time lucrative enough to provide for our relatively large family.  It is apparent to me that God has blessed me and my family as such since we have made this a priority in living according to the Bible and the teachings of the Church that emphasize the husband as provider and wife as the bearer of life in the family.  Our obedience and adherence to living within our means has continued to bear fruit.  As with everything in this life, it is still far from perfect as the job becomes very demanding during the early months of the year. 

So it appears I haven’t made a blog entry in over 3 months, and that is the reason.  You see, we here at Fix the Family practice what we preach.  We urge families, principally parents, to make a priority of the duties of their state in life, which pays off in this life and the next.  Remember our degree of holiness depends upon it.  So when the family duties of those working in this Apostolate present themselves, our work here has to be put on the side.  Unfortunately due to my role in this work as of now, I continue to be the bottleneck for the final presentation of content.  Everything we produce has to have my final review and approval before release.  So when I am engaged by other duties new content presentation is delayed.  Fortunately, we have purposely situated things in such a way that all previously released existing content is always timeless and always available.  We are not dependent upon news flashes or current events for the presentation of content.  That has been done by design.  We present timeless teaching here that can always be accessed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. 

But that does not mean that we feel we have completed our work.  We still feel like we have very much still just begun.  So here we are at the beginning of our 6th season of work.  Incidentally, the most expedient and visual means of promotion continues to be our Facebook page where I do continue to post and share items that are related to and serve to emphasize the Catholic family philosophy.  So please visit there often even if you don’t see new content on the website.  You may have noticed a decrease in video content via You Tube last year.  That was not intended but occurred due to a related work in the way of a book I am in the process of writing.  Its status is that the manuscript is complete and has been through 2 sets of revisions and editing and is awaiting a final review before being presented for publishing.  The interference with our video production came in that the book project took longer than expected.  But, all in God’s time… 

You should see at this time the presentation of a video series on “Masculine and Feminine Genius” as part of a lecture series.  We also will be recording a complete series of videos for DVD in studio that will be a revision of our defining series “The Family Matters.”  We’re also bringing back the “unplugged” Blog Video Series that is a bit more off-the-cuff of commentary and issues I would have been engaged with each week, often times with social media participants. 

So, welcome back everyone.  We’re geared up for a fresh season ready to give you some food for thought and guidance for leading and nurturing your families.  As always, we encourage you to drop us line with your comments or questions.  Please pray for us and share us with your family and friends.  Buckle up and enjoy the ride!

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God Forgives, Nature Does Not

Posted By at Sunday, February 22, 2015

Working in this Apostolate, we hear quite a number of personal experiences of people’s family lives as well as through knowing people personally.  It is quite consistent though that when we observe that the things people DO, not so much what they SAY or THINK or BELIEVE but what they DO will yield certain specific results.  This applies not only in family life but obviously in all areas of life, what we could refer to as “nature.”  What we do “in the natural” while we’re here on earth will result in certain outcomes in nature.  Not only that, but it is based upon these acts that we will be judged by Almighty God when each of us is called to his particular judgment. 

However, due to our human weakness and possibly a veiled form of pride, we sometimes fall into the trap of thinking that we can act in a certain way and achieve contradictory results, as if we are somehow “supernatural.”  We say “I can handle it.”  Of course God can decide at times to suspend the laws of nature for His own greater glory by performing a miracle, which by definition is rare.  A very small minute number of people who have ever lived have experienced a miracle in their lives.  Most of are just ordinary folk who live under the laws of nature.  Therefore, it is up to us to obey those laws to achieve those results we believe God intends for us.

So if for instance we have a family and we have to manage the finances of that family, we can’t expect that if we spend everything that we make that we will be storing up a financial reserve to support that family.  We can say, “Well that might be for those rich folks but a man’s got to live right?”  But the day comes later in life when the family has financial needs that are unable to be satisfied because the man of the house did not manage his finances properly.  (As we look at a couple of these we may be able to detect an associated capital sin, in this case, covetousness.)  Or we might think that we are above nature when it comes to our personal health and that we can eat whatever we want without any consequences.  If we just look around we can SEE that what (and how much) a person eats DOES have consequences.  This accumulated effect takes on obesity in the short-term and a myriad of diseases and disorders later in life.  (Do we see gluttony here?)  So okay, you get the point.

This is yet another one of those tricks of Satan in which instead of practicing the self-denial and self-control habits we should form, we give in to the less-virtuous options since we don’t see any impending threats.  But the big regrets come after years and decades of bad choices made systematically.  This also applies to relationships including those in marriage and family.  We tend to avoid doing the things we have to do by filling our lives with distractions and claiming we don’t have time or that other things are of higher priority.  We really need to be cautious of those basic things that we sacrifice for the temporary passing novelties presented us by the world.  On the other hand, some basic virtues (nothing to the extent of climbing Mount Everest) practiced systematically can yield a sound solid life in all facets.

This is not to say that if someone makes such mistakes that he is condemned to hell, because we all know that God forgives IF one humbly admits his faults, confesses his sins, is truly sorry, has a firm purpose of amendment, and CHANGES his ways, or makes better choices.  That’s right; we’re right back to obeying the laws of nature God instituted at the creation of the world.  But as far as recovering in the natural, for some it may be too late as financial ruin, disease, or divorce or family break-up may have already resulted.  This is not God’s intent for us.  Sure He will forgive, and after a long Purgation of the temporal effects of our sins we may still enter into heaven.  But nature will not forgive. 

Wouldn’t it be better to boy to God’s laws from the outset and live a steady and productive sound life that God intends to the extent of our own control?  Lent is a good time to start building the habits it takes to make those basic choices that will yield positive results and to train our children in them.  Let’s get started on that today.

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Regular Confession for the Family

Posted By at Tuesday, February 10, 2015

For whatever reason it seems in many Catholic Parishes the practice of regular Confession has become a thing of the past and that’s unfortunate.  It may be somehow due to a minimalist concept of just doing what is required as prescribed by the precept of confessing one’s sins at least once a year.  But possibly what may have happened in the meantime is a bit of a dulling of the conscience and a lacking in confronting one’s faults to the detriment of countless souls.  It is almost as though one isn’t expected to go to Confession unless he has killed someone or stolen something.  A few generations ago, it was a common practice for families to go to Confession on a regular basis, and you’d often see long lines every weekend at Parishes where families had arranged to do so.  Fortunately, we belong to such a Parish.  I was reflecting on it this evening while praying before Mass as I heard the door to the Confessional repeatedly open and close.  What a beautiful sound.

Like many things in the Church today, it appears the pendulum is swinging back in the right direction, and we’re seeing a revival of regular Confession.  I’ve heard several people tell me that they’ve noticed this in Parishes where they attend as well, especially where there are younger Priests serving.  As parents, this should be part of the education and formation of our children.  Obviously they should be prepared to make their First Confession BEFORE receiving their First Holy Communion.  They should be trained in the proper method of making a Confession with the proper prayers to say, etc. 

Then we need to take the approach of this being a part of our Catholic way of life making regular use of the Sacrament.  We must avoid the contemporary innovation of rarely having our children go to Confession.  Some pop psychologists may say that reflecting upon one’s faults on a regular basis may build up guilt complexes in children.  Why that may have been popular back in the 60s and 70s, it is pretty obvious to see that many grew up with poorly formed consciences and thereby lacking in a sense of right and wrong or self-control.  Regular examinations of conscience and Confessions help to keep us aware of our faults and conscience of the work we need to do in continually resisting temptations.  So first of all, we need to set the example as parents by making regular use of the Sacrament ourselves.  In addition to being the reception of a Sacrament it is also an exercise in humility that our children will come to recognize more and more the older they get.  When they see us going to Confession, especially the dads, they see that we are admitting our faults and weaknesses and that we are submitting to a higher Authority than ourselves.  It is a good practice to regularly have an examination of conscience as part of family prayer where the family members silently reflect on the sins they may have committed that day.

Then the children should be given the opportunity to regularly receive the Sacrament themselves.   A good practice for children is once per month Confession at least, and more often as needed.  This may require us as parents to bring them to Church at times when Confession is offered.  They should see this as a priority and us making it a priority for them. 

The season of Lent is right around the corner.  It may be time for our families to make a better effort at refining our practice of regular Confession.  It goes a long way in keeping us “clean” and strong in order to resist the temptations that are surely to come.  In addition the graces received from the Sacrament fortify us further to resist the tactics of the Devil.  What a beautiful Sacrament we have in the practice of Confession, a valuable tool in our quest for sanctity.

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Modest Dress: A Father's Perspective

Posted By at Sunday, January 18, 2015

There’s been a bit more “coverage” of the issue of modest dress with regard to girls and ladies of late, which is really good to see.  It’s nice to see that more and more people are considering it an issue at all.  As fashions get more and more revealing, something eventually has to give, and it likely won’t be any concession on the part of the garment manufacturers.  One particular article that recently surfaced by Melanie Pritchard addressed a certain facet of solving this issue that is extremely crucial.  She says “"Fathers are by far the ones who cringe the most when they speak to me. They know teen-age boys.  Every father was a teenage boy once.  They cringe at the way their daughters are dressing, but the fight is so big, they often back down and let their girls wear what they want."

Before I address that statement I’d like to look at the issue itself and the reason it is so important.  Let’s look at contemporary Church teaching to give us some background.  According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, which we Catholics are to obey, ¶ 2521-2523

“Modesty protects the intimate center of the person. It means refusing to unveil what should remain hidden. It is ordered to chastity to whose sensitivity it bears witness.… Modesty is decency. It inspires one's choice of clothing.  It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet…Modesty inspires a way of life which makes it possible to resist the allurements of fashion and the pressures of prevailing ideologies.” (emphasis added)

Church teaching here is placing a responsibility on females for the possibility of provoking males to lust.  We should all be familiar with the scripture where our Lord deals with the issue of lust "Everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Mt 5:28).  One thing to note here is that there is not a conjoining assertion of women toward men.  Because of the way God has wired us, men are much more susceptible to lust than women are.  Women and ladies must be aware of this, and it should guide them in the way they dress as per the above excerpts from the Catechism.  The Catechism here clearly is anticipating and denying the exception we so often here today that females can dress however they wish and any lust is merely the fault of the male who makes the observation because he is lacking in purity.  There is at least equal responsibility here.  But if a man has to turn away from someone who may draw him to lust how is he to go about his life and business.  There is clearly a reciprocal responsibility, and the more liberal of today’s fashions do not assist in upholding this responsibility.

As a father, I have always clearly understood this issue and have anticipated it all along the way because I as the author of the article about stated was once a teenage boy.  Likewise, I am still a normal man.  I know the things in a female that will capture a male’s attention, especially in an impure way.  The article rightly pointed out that it’s almost too late to try to start a formation of modesty in dress by the time a girl could begin to provoke attention to herself.  It almost has to start before a girl enters puberty.  I say almost for those who are beyond that point because you still have the responsibility of training your girls in modesty even if you were unaware of this when they were younger.  It just may make it a bit more difficult. 

One thing about the article I really couldn’t identify with though was the existence of parents having “knock-down-drag-out clothing wars with their teenage daughters.”  The article (partially) accurately points out that this is due to the parents springing this on the child after allowing immodest dress through childhood.  I say partially because that is only part of the problem.  The main issue here is a lack of respect of the child for the parents and the lack of obedience.  This one also needs to begin at a very young age with training in discipline and obedience.  It should be as simple as whatever the parent says goes.  The child at whatever age should be expected to obey. 

Also, what helps with regard to the issue of modest dress especially, but also in other issues of discipline, is the submission of the wife to her husband.  I will often see what appears to be mothers who are not quite as astute as the lady that wrote the article.  They seem to be more than happy to allow their daughters to wear very revealing and accentuating fashions.  I say “seem” because in all actuality they may have had one of these “clothing wars” that the mother lost.  In either case of the mother being for or against the immodest fashion, the father knowing the provocative nature of the garment should step in and not allow the garment to be worn.  The age-old scene of the father saying “Young lady you go right back upstairs and change that outfit” comes to mind.  Here the important thing is that if the mother didn’t see the garment as unacceptable should defer to the father’s guidance. On a more practical level, with a daughter who has been raised and formed with modest dress if she happens to buy something that is a bit “over the line,” the father can discreetly tell the mother to tell her to get rid of the item or to return it.  It is good for the father also to see what the daughter has purchased before she wears it publicly. 

In ages past parents and educators would exercise more caution with these issues under the pretext of avoiding the near occasions of sin.  We don’t provoke; we take precautions.  The wisdom of old actually prudently had boys and girls in separate classrooms for this reason.  Couldn’t we at least today exercise some caution by having our daughters dress properly?  Dad’s, it is our duty to protect our daughters in this way.  This is an approach that assumes “all boys are bums and after only one thing.”  It is an approach that assumes that most boys are normal and shouldn’t be placed into a situation where they are highly likely to fail.  We wouldn’t do that in regards to situations where they could be in danger, so we shouldn’t here either.  I’ve seen way too may “good kids” make life-altering mistakes because proper decorum was not followed by the parents and parental authority was diminished.  We should want better for our own children.  

 

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