It’s a pretty common view that there is a tremendous underutilization of one of our society’s most powerful resources: men. How often do we hear about men being passive or absent or lazy or disinterested? I have another question: Isn’t this exactly what the feminist movement wants? Of course the knee-jerk reply to that is that all the feminists want is equality. That may have been the case at the onset, but that has been achieved, much to the detriment of our society to the extent it involves removing mothers from the home who have children to raise and care for. Regardless, it has been achieved. Women can and do occupy any and every position men do in our society. So, why haven’t the feminists claimed victory and closed up shop and gone down to the neighborhood bar to have a beer and celebrate like men would? Because they need to perpetuate themselves much like labor unions who had a place at one time in the business sector but are no longer necessary.
I don’t think you’re going to hear much from feminists about men not carrying their weight. The feminists have men right where they want them: being politically correct and silent about women pretty much doing anything they want even if it’s harmful to family and children. Women who are trying to march to their orders are the ones who are complaining. Many of these are good Catholic women doing whatever everyone else is doing not discouraged by their Priests or Church communities yet trying to figure out why their lives aren’t so hunky-dory as the stealthily led feminist organizations promised them they would be. These are the ones who wish the men in their lives, mainly their husbands, are not more engaged and aggressive in their pursuits.
While there is a whole industry of social scientists (who are very well paid to come up with their theories) who are trying to research these phenomena, I would like to state the obvious as to why these men behave in such a passive manner: Because they can. I have observed that men generally will rise to the level that is required and no higher. If we consider when may have been more valiant or virtuous, we may start to wonder what was the difference between the men at that time and men now. Did they have a different bone structure or a better diet or more advanced mental capabilities? Let’s take the men of World War II or any significant military event. How did these men act with such courage? They were required to. How about men of the great depression? They were required to. How about men during the westward expansion? They had to.
Due to the feminist agenda, women can do any job a man can do. So men aren’t required to do any more than they do. They can play games and watch sports and play fantasy sports because their wives take care of the household chores and pay the bills as well. So if any women are wondering why their husbands aren’t more in tune with things or more passionate about anything but football, you may have bought the feminist program and didn’t realize it.
As Fr. Paul Marx noted if we look at all of the great discoveries and inventions throughout history, we will find that men have made them. (I often add my two cents that women then put shrubs around them.) Yet only women have the ability to bring forth the greatest of all creation, another human being. But feminists have indoctrinated women to claim that this is abusive and they shouldn’t be used as “brood mares." So they go out and satisfy a lower calling of working for a paycheck instead, all the while believing they are doing good by serving others “using their God-given abilities.” As GK Chesterton observed they claimed “I will not be dictated to” then went off to become stenographers. The problem is once they reach their 40s and 50s they see that the greatest thing they could have done with their lives has passed them by, and they are no longer interested in this emotionally dramatized career they now have.
I have also observed that when men are required to carry the load in a family while their wives stay home and bear and care for children, they do. A young lady wrote in last week in reaction to our last article saying that she is going to college to have a career not so much because of the possibility of abandonment but “just in case” the man she eventually marries becomes sick or dies. Apparently she wasn’t taught that there is inexpensive insurance for both of those possibilities that responsible young families should have (instead of trips to Disneyworld). Her question shows how effective the feminist movement has been at indoctrination. The undertone there is that the man just can’t handle it. He WILL require help. So it’s often a self-fulfilling concern. The man marries a lady with a good steady income, and he’s set. He can coast. It happens all the time.
But men are capable of so much more when they are required to be. It’s time to wake up this sleeping giant in our culture and get it engaged. There is way too much power on the sidelines not being used. Due to affirmative action and EEOC policies many large corporations require that so many women fill certain positions or that purchases be made from women-owned businesses. What happens when there is a man who is better qualified at filling these needs? He is pushed to the sideline or is left at a lower position and never realizes his potential.
If we wonder why we are not moving forward as a society and as a country and as a participant in the worldwide economy we may want to consider these very facts. We may want to look at the leaders in the worldwide economy to see what their sociological makeup is like. Look at the accomplishments of men throughout history, and look at them today and ask yourself why there is a difference, if you dare.
God bless you+