Please pardon my absence from the blog for the past few months, but we here at Fix the Family practice what we teach. I have a highly seasonal occupation that “taxes” my time the first 4 months of the year as well as the end of every year, and my family is totally dependent upon my occupation for its sustenance so that my wife can tend to the higher matters of being a wife and mother in the home and is not distracted by outside employment. Nevertheless, I am back. Incidentally, this also comes at a time when my first book will be soon published and available to you, and that has occupied a great deal of my time with the Apostolate as well, in addition to the normal duties of being a husband and father for my wife and children. Be sure to also LIKE our Facebook page and follow us there. This is our principal marketing and outreach vehicle, and we are always posting and sharing relevant content there even during my busy seasonal time. All is well at the Citadel I am happy to report, and we are progressing through life in dramatic fashion.
That being said, my 3rd son is graduating from high school next month. So, as has become a bit of a tradition in our family, we together went yesterday to acquire a cell phone for him, what I call a “not-smart phone,” or what he says is properly called a “basic phone.” Yes, he is about to be 18 years old and is now getting his first cell phone which is not a smart phone. Now I know that will strike the world with sheer amazement and disbelief, but this is part of the method to the process we have in raising our children. No we do not go the way of the world, and by the time they get a cell phone, they really need one. I realize that parents who send their children to school feel a justification for them having one, but I’m still not convinced about the need for smart phone except from a peer pressure standpoint which is not justifiable. I can see no way in justifying the astronomical cost of a smart phone (principally the monthly data service charges) for what simply amounts to be a toy. Strong deliberate parents should heed this example. For those ADULT children still under my care (and roof) we’ve found a good compromise for those interested in the wireless data connectivity to be a non-phone device (i-pod touch) that uses wi-fi when available that won’t require monthly data service charges.
So we went to one of the big service providers yesterday, or several I should say, and picked up for him a non-smart/basic phone. So the young lady who was probably in her early 20’s started asking questions. She was complimentary in a parent bringing his son at nearly 18 years old to get a phone and not diving in to the i-phone 7 immediately. I thanked her, and pointed out it is our method to gradually step into and through things of this nature more later than earlier. She went on to say she had served a mother earlier in the day who was purchasing an i-phone 7 for her 12-year-old daughter, par for the course in America. (Incidentally, I have never owned an Apple product more than a week [0 compatibility and 100% proprietary were my principal issues], but I was holding Apple stock when the i-phone first came out and made a killing.) So, in her questioning she asked if he had a job. He said “yes.” She said that was good. She asked who he worked for; he told her. She said that was good. I interjected with a question of if they were hiring. That took her by surprise, and she hesitatingly said “Well…yes, but I believe you have to have a degree to work here.” I was all astonishment. I literally LOL’d (laughed out loud) in a cell phone outlet. I said “WHAT?! You have to have a degree to sell cell phones?” Then I asked her “How do you use your degree in this job?” She said frankly and matter-of-fact-ly “My degree has nothing to do with this job. I was a political science/government major.”
BINGO! ladies and gentlemen. Yes, graduation season is upon us and it give us a great opportunity to consider those profound points in our article 6 Reasons (+2) to NOT Send Your Daughter to College. The value of a college degree has been severely depleted in addition to those 8 reasons, so much so that to work retail for some outlets it is “required.” I know my son currently graduating from high school would easily be able to do that job quite proficiently since my brilliant wife has done such a magnificent job of educating him for the last 12 years.
It turns out that the brilliant logic I presented in 6 Reasons, which obviously escaped many people (mostly women) and drew great vitriol and anger, was actually spot on. A friend recently alerted me to a homily given by a devout Catholic Priest called The Errors of Russia: Their Plan and the Plan of Heaven. I encourage everyone reading this to stop here and listen to this homily. It is less than 23 minutes long. If that is too much to ask, I would say to start listening at about the 14:00 point. Here he gets into warning the Catholic faithful of my Reason #2. The homily is oriented around an over century-long process to destroy the Catholic Church carried out by Communists in conjunction with Masons. Their 2-prong attack is to corrupt the Priesthood and corrupt women. They are carrying out a revolution with the use of sexuality, thus the sexual revolution. This was discovered by Masonic documents that were given to the Holy See in the 1800’s, and the popes ordered that the plans be published.
Toward the corruption of women’s morals, it was noticed that it was very difficult to get women to compromise themselves alone. But when placed in a group setting where the appearance was that all the women were sexually promiscuous, it became much easier. One of the main settings where this was carried out was on college campuses. Some key quotes that all Catholic parents should ponder regarding the decision to send their children to college are as follows:
- A student resident assistant (RA) at Loyola University in Chicago, a Catholic University, told her professor when he stated that sexual activity by the students was voluntary and not obligatory, “Doctor your are mistaken…The peer pressure, and the way things are set up make promiscuity practically obligatory. It doesn’t matter what the school says officially; the rules are there to be broken. This freedom can make girls dizzy and unsure about whatever else they believe about saving one’s self for marriage. When it seems like everyone else is doing it, it is hard to say no. I deal with it…everyday as an RA.” (17:90-18:30)
- In most American college co-ed dorms the flesh of our daughters is being served up daily like snack jerky. The gates are wide open, and no guards have been posted. (18:30-19:05)
- The sex carnival that is college life today is also doing great damage to our sons’ characters. I’m witnessing a perceptible dissipation of manly virtue in the young men I teach. I’m prepared to ask whether America might not be lost because a great middle class was persuaded that they must send their children to college with no questions asked when in fact this is the near equivalent of committing their sons and daughters to one of the circles of Dante’s Inferno. Lenin is absolutely right. The success of a revolution depends on the degree of participation by women. (19:05-19:41)
You see in my initial article, there is no sexism there. What I was saying is reflected in these points made by a devout Priest. Now the most common objections to the article we received from Catholics were 2-fold. First, parents claimed that they were sending their daughters to college “just in case” they were abandoned or widowed. So the claim was that they would just get a degree for the purpose of being “educated” but then not get a job and instead commit themselves to their families. However, we can see that this rarely actually happens because they feel they need to make use of the degree that they worked so hard to get. They further justify this saying a recent pope said that women’s contribution to society is necessary. So is it worth offering their flesh up to undeserving college boys “just in case” and to contribute to society? Parents this must be considered. There are other ways to replace income in the case of a loss. Are we that covetous that we have to sacrifice our morals in order to attempt ensure an income. Doesn’t the Church place poverty above immorality? Maybe a family would have to struggle. There is great virtue in that. Are women so prideful that they insist they must make a “contribution” to society and sacrifice their prime childbearing years? Parents, think on these things.
Then the other common objection is why I did not apply these objections to boys. Well, many of those objections do apply except that men and women are as different as our anatomies. Our place in life bears that out. Husbands are tasked with providing for their families. In some cases a degree is necessary. When it is, extreme caution should be taken when embarking upon this reality. Commuter colleges and community colleges are much better settings for young Catholic men who MUST get a degree for the vocation to which God is calling them. But as for women, the common justifications are just plain false. The young ladies end up losing their purity, getting their degrees, and entering the workforce. They get married eventually, and their husbands are not manly enough to know their wives should not work. They depend on both incomes so their childbearing is further suppressed.
Catholics, understand the Communists' plan has been orchestrated and executed quite successfully. The average Catholic’s lifestyle is just as pagan as the world’s. The problem is that most Catholics are doing nothing to resist it but are diving headlong into it by way of their children. It’s time to wake up and realize Catholics really are called to be different and not conform to the ways of the world. Or you could just go with the flow and watch your child get a prestigious job selling cell phones at Verizon.
God bless you+