Recently I saw a Facebook friend post a news story about an 8th grade girl who was a kicker on a boys’ Catholic CYO football team, but was “benched” because of a policy against girls playing on the team. The observation by the person making the post was “Is this where we are?” I assume that means we should have “progressed” so far from such a narrow-minded way of thinking. Obviously, I personally agree with the policy and think it is still a small semblance of Catholic thought left in the culture in which we live. I haven’t followed the story any further but I’m sure there will be a lot of pressure on the organization to change the policy with the feminist ideology all around us. Before pointing out the reasons I agree with the policy, I would first like to point out that all involved broke a rule, and then after having done something that was prohibited, proceeded as though they had a right to continue. This is how liberals typically operate. They are very aggressive in pushing the envelope to see what they can get away with then cry “FOWL” when a rule is enforced. We don’t have to wonder why the parents didn’t ask permission for the young lady to participate before she did. The reports are that the young lady was “devastated” by the decision. It makes one wonder why her parents would not have been more cautious before encouraging her to do something wasn’t allowed.
In another story that we featured on our Facebook page, no less than the BISHOP of a diocese had to step in to forbid girls from participating in a school’s WRESTLING program. Yes, the linked article there says the “decree” is archaic; I’d have to say they are insane. Where has common sense and common decency gone amongst everyday Catholics? Not only that, but the good Bishop actually was (seriously?) asked why he made such a call AND he had to actually come out and explain himself since they were unable to comprehend his reasoning. Bishop Ronald Gainer explains "We would in our Catholic school try to teach and model respect between the two sexes and appropriate relationship. This sort of physical contact seems to violate the moral standards. I would say it would be scripture. My only thought is it would be the appropriate respect between the sexes for one another. It may be our Catholic interpretation, but we would find it rooted in God's word." I would just ask the coaches and parents involved to imagine themselves in such a position when they were that age with the raging hormones they possessed to see if they really felt like this was appropriate. I’ll go ahead and open up a politically incorrect can of worms and say that it would also be inappropriate for homosexual males to participate for the same obvious reasons.
A larger obvious reason I would disagree with females participating with males in contact sports is simply for their own protection. Even in the case of a kicker, the young lady is on the field of play and so is in the line of fire. The players’ goal is to block the kick. Surely there are rules to protect the kicker, but kickers still do get hit and get hurt. Females are smaller and weaker than males typically so their risk of injury is greater. A young man who is a gentleman will be concerned for the safety of a young lady on the field, so he will not play at full speed or with full force. This is how someone gets hurt playing football. I know; I played as a kid in high school.
This is all done from the feminist notion that females can do anything males can do, so they insist that they be given the opportunity to prove it. When someone denies them, they are aghast that we haven’t progressed further than this in 2014. This is utter madness. We’ll even put our daughters in harm’s way in the military under the ideal of “equality.”
This brings me to my main principle that stands juxtaposed against females in contact sports of any sort, and that is feminine formation. The reason we as Catholics reject the feminist notion that women should do any and every thing men do is because God created men and women to be different. The world, led by feminists, believes that men and women are the same and seeks to create some freak of a being with no gender identity. People are even having surgical procedures to change their gender. We glory in the way God made us in His image, male and female (Gen 1:27). The problem with raising children today is that parents are taught to raise and form them backwards. Girls are taught to be aggressive and compete against boys. Boys are taught to be quiet and calm like girls are naturally. When the boys don’t behave this way, they are punished and in many cases drugged.
I heard it said that males portray the power of God and females portray His beauty. We have to ask ourselves in the formation of our daughters is we are raising them to portray His beauty or his power. What does participation in contact sports embody? It embodies power, aggression, strength, and conquering the opponent. Even if females are participating against females, does this sound like feminine formation to you? Our Faith always takes the feminine from the perspective of mothering. Even if a woman is not a physical mother she will be a spiritual mother. Many writings from St. John Paul II and Venerable Fulton J. Sheen reflect this. John Paul’s Mulieris Dignitatem goes primarily and extensively into the role of woman as mother. Our feminist culture has deceived us into glossing over this presentation and focusing on the deviant roles of women, even in Catholic circles.
For those of us parents raising daughters are we raising them to be young ladies who will one day be mothers? What type of formation would encourage this? Would it be the aggression of contact sports or would it be something softer, more beautiful, more loving and compassionate, more compatible with their very delicate anatomy that is created to bear a child? There are many things for our daughters to do which are more conducive to their femininity and which will protect their dignity, like music and art. Does this mean that girls and women should just let themselves go and not take care of their bodies and fitness? Of course not. There are many ways girls and ladies can exercise in a discreet and private way that preserve their dignity. If we look at previous generations when women were happier and more…well…feminine, we would see that they did not participate in many things young ladies participate in today. They did feminine things, and their marriages stayed together and were happier, and their children were more obedient and respectful. We need to stop and realize we haven’t really “progressed” as far as we think, and we can do something to change that.
God bless you+