Catechism of the Catholic Church
Chastity and homosexuality
2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity, tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered." They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection. <emphasis added>
I just wanted to once again present the Church’s timeless teaching on homosexuality before I get into my topic here, regardless of how the media continues to misinterpret or present things said by Church “officials.” There has been no change in the Church’s teaching on this issue nor will there ever be. But while the number of men and women afflicted with this disorder is not negligible, as explained by the Catechism, the relative proportion of people certainly is. Even in government studies done in America by the CDC the percentage is about 1.6% or 2.3% depending on how you view it. So obviously here again we have the government and politicians blowing up something extremely rare relatively speaking that it is trying to normalize in society.
Yes, we are to treat everyone, regardless of which of the particular crosses we are each made to bear, with dignity and respect, including those with these disordered tendencies. What makes this particular affliction somewhat unique is how unnatural the disorder is. But as we observe those who either obstinately ignore the beautiful and concerned care of the Church in this area or are simply ignorant of it, we can see that they still have some tendencies toward the natural. Of course the tendency is objectively unnatural simply because biologically and anatomically “They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity.(CCC2357). But how often do we see such “couples” as still attracting a physically opposite masculine- or feminine-appearing mate even though their sexual anatomy dictates otherwise?
In a very awkward and disordered way they still reflect somewhat of a natural pairing under a very twisted appearance. It makes one wonder why this would be. Could it be because there is something to the complementarity of a couple that transcends sexual anatomy? I am in no way accepting homosexuality by analyzing this. Sexual anatomy is obviously primary as designed by Almighty God, and I praise and thank Him for that (daily). Glory be to God! But we live in a culture that is attempting to meld the masculine and feminine and diminish any indication of a difference, and we can even see semblances of it in homosexuals. In all likelihood, this is what makes their relationships last as long as they do, although most are destined to fail.
Actually, God’s design is for a masculine man and feminine woman to unite and marry permanently for life and to carry out their respective gender-specific roles. Scripture tells us in Genesis that in the most basic sense this is for the woman to bear children and for the man to work to provide for them. Because of his natural masculine size and strength he is to be the head of that family, its provider, and its protector. Because of the soft, sensitive, and gentle nature of the feminine woman, she is to be submissive to her husband and be the primary nurturer and caregiver for her children. Again, transcending the primary sexual anatomical complementarity, their complementary masculine and feminine natures make for a wonderful working relationship with a distinct division of responsibilities in an industrious productive home.
When we part from this design, we start to have problems. I’ve noticed in many (heterosexual) couples that it is the norm now for the woman to be quite a leader with a distinct take-charge attitude in the relationship. She will often be the more vocal member of the couple. This goes quite unnoticed by most and appears to be expected now. She is generally expected to work outside the home and generate an income and is almost always charged with taking care of the finances. These are all the responsibilities inherent to the husband’s duty to his wife. Even though a woman may be unusually aggressive or assertive, a more dominant or authoritative man can always be found. If she insists on uniting herself to a milder man, she will have a special challenge in forcing herself to submit to his leadership. So what is he doing while she’s taking care of all of his responsibilities? Often out of “fairness” since she works, he will often be cooking and doing housework and tending to the children. So, as you’ve guessed it, we have some significant role reversals going on here. In order to Fix the Family, we’ve got to get back to basics and take care of the duties that are inherent in each of our respective genders to fulfill the complementarity as God intended.God bless you+